- 5 years ago
I love silk flowers; the ones made with actual silk fabric. Bejeweled with pearl or gem anthers and stamens even better (surprisingly affordable by the strand on ebay or bead shop- not the big box craft stores). I also love moss, succulent and non-florals for centerpeices and tablescapes. Would those be an option?
When people say silk flowers, they usually mean plastic flowers. Do plastic flowers look as good as fresh peonies (self arranged) or preserved boxwood and lavender (from Target) or candles? Rarely.
If you care about it, then care about it. If you truely, truely don’t care, then why are you asking this? It is your money. Buy what you want. Similarly, people are not required to ooh and ahh over decor choices they don’t care for. They need to be polite. But brides tend to forget that guests are whole people who cannot spend a whole year doe-y eyed gushing applause for every idea or finanical priorty you have. Nor is it sensible to let all your guests and stangers on the internet tell you how to decorate your house or how to dress. Love your decisions and don’t fish or blackmail for everyone’s approval. Hard to do at first, but it is worth the sanity.
The only thing that cheezes me off about faux florals is the frequent faux honesty of the hostess that goes with it. Your allergy reasons may be true, I have seen others lie badly about it. The passive aggressive digs at expense; the desperation for compliments; or worse, the domineering Queen Bee, who will give you hell to pay if she is not praised in her holiness enough and her holy fake flowers (obviously my SIL). I have a severe aversion to false pretenses, dishonesty, disingeniousness and false compliments. It is my personal bias that people like that also decorate with faux decor be it flowers, marble, leather and knock-offs. I know that is not true of everyone, but it is my first reaction due to experience.
Truth be told, the classiest wedding in my family was hosted by the teen mother at a steak house with no centerpieces at all (17 years later still a solid marriage).