(Closed) Are STD invites really necessary?

posted 8 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee

We’re doing them because we have a Destination Wedding. If we were having a wedding where everyone was local and we knew they wouldn’t have to worry about work or plan anything, then we would skip the Save-The-Date Cards.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee

 Lots of people don’t do save the dates.  They really aren’t necessary in most cases.  We chose to send them out because we had a lot of guests coming from out of town so I wanted to get the hotel information out to them ASAP and allow plenty of time for them to make travel arrangements.  As long as most of your guests are local and you aren’t getting married on a holiday I don’t think they are necessary.

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I think that save the dates are really only necessary when a large percentage of your guests will have to plan for travel and overnight lodging.  If most of your guests are local, then it’s not a big deal.

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I don’t think they are necessary. However, we still sent them out because we are getting married in May, which is usually a busy time for people with kids so we thought it was a good idea. And to my surprise, even people I work with and already knew about it said it was a great idea and they were happy to get one. I also didn’t want to spend MORE money on postage/cards etc, but we used 123print.com and got them for a very reasonable price. I would also keep in mind how early you will send out the invites– I received one a little over a month before the wedding and didn’t get to go because I had to work.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

They aren’t necessary.  Its been a new thing for the past 5-10 years.  I’m only sending out about 6 Save-The-Date Cards for out of state guests only.  I’m putting the hotel information on there too.

I posted my wedding date on Facebook.  That should be enough notice for everyone, haha

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

half of our guest list is from out of town and will have to travel to the wedding, plus our wedding is in the summer so we wanted to make sure people don’t book a vacation during it.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Ours is during a time that town gets very busy and books up with state athletic competitions, and we have many people coming from out of town. We’ll do ours almost a year ahead just to make sure that everyone has a chance to line up hotels before they get booked. If you know/see a lot of your guests often and they aren’t traveling, then Save the Dates aren’t that big of a deal. 

Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

It depends on the demographics of your guests, are they travelling from far? are they very busy with lots of events around the time of the wedding? Do they need lots of advance notice. I decided against STDS but I did tell all my out of town family way ahead of time so they could mark the date on their calendars

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

They are nice to do if you have extra money and energy and really want to start wedding planning, and they are nice to do if a lot of your guests will have to travel for your wedding (so that they can make vacation plans).

But they are absolutely NOT necessary, and honestly a quick email or note in the Christmas card would serve the same function.

Post # 13
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@helenc32: They are only needed if you are having a Destination Wedding or if you have a lot of out of town guests. We are doing it because 90% of our guest list will be from out of town. And about 10 people from his family are out of the country. If everyone was local, I would not to STD.

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