Post # 1
I was thinking that to save some money we wouldn’t do the Save-The-Date Cards. I have a lot a lot on my plate right now and that just seems to be something to add to the list of so many other things on my mind at any given moment. We do have 98% of our guests out of town but I’m thinking if we send them at least 6 months in advance. Am I being a nutjob?
Post # 3
you can for sure cut these. word of mouth works wonders- as does a wedding website. great way to save some moolah.
Post # 4
No. They are not a requirement. We didn’t have them. We did send out a quick email to our wedding party and immediate families about booking hotel rooms early though since the hotel we chose had very limited space.
Post # 5
- Wedding: May 2011 - A church in downtown Nashville
6 months in advance sounds definitely okay to me! That’s plenty of time for people to plan and buy tickets/book rooms. If you’ve got a ton on your plate, don’t add even more pressure, especially since it gets worse as the date gets closer. Ease into it 🙂 You’re good!
Post # 6
I don’t know. Considering 98% of your guests are Out of Town I would really do Save The Dates.
Does everyone have access to internet/email if they do maybe E-Save The Dates?
Or do free postcards from Vistaprint? They don’t have to be crazy fancy and $$$$!
Post # 7
Edit: I misread the original post. I think you should do the Save-The-Date Cards, at least e-mail Save-The-Date Cards if you want most of your invite list to show up. They don’t have to be a big deal!
Post # 8
They aren’t a requirement but if 98% of your guests are Out of Town you might want to consider it. We made outs for only $10. We found a picture we liked from our E-pics, added some words and mailed them off! That way our Out of Town guests had time to plan for time off, travel expenses, the actual traveling itself. They don’t have to be expenive and they aren’t REQUIRED but I would really encourage you do send some.
Post # 9
I think that sending them out to the out of town guests is important.. If you send the invitations at 6 months that seems a little early to me. I don’t know how many guests you have but Vista Print has some cute ones that really aren’t very expensive.. And if you are wanting to do something simple you could always do them yourself & that would end up being even cheaper.
Post # 10
Do a save the date email! If 98% of your guests are Out of Town, you might want to send something to give them all time to plan! Good luck
Post # 11
We just let people know by e-mail when our wedding would be.
Post # 12
What did Out of Town guests do BEFORE STD’s became popular? They heard about it word of mouth. You can send an email or create a Facebook page. You can also do something through paperless post.
Post # 13
You can e-mail your Save-The-Date Cards or set up a website and just phone/do word of mouth to those who are invited. Beware that it might get passed around to people you didn’t think you’d invite this way.
I just sent out very early invites because I wanted people to feel officially invited but, etiquette rules be damned, am trying to avoid consumption for its own sake, which the mailed Save-The-Date Cards seemed like to me. I have a few regrets, but no one was expecting 100% traditional from us anyway.
Post # 14
@Miss Tattoo: Im with you…Email them or do a knot page or something
I didnt do STD because we decided to get way nice invites. Just an extra expense that we applied elsewhere.
Post # 15
No, you don’t have to do Save-The-Date Cards. But I don’t think you want to mail invitations 6 months in advance. People are notorious for losing/misplacing mail. That’s why 4-6 weeks is suggested to mail out invitations. They may have said 6 months ago that they were coming, but then when your wedding comes around either forget or make other plans. Even if you tell them to RSVP 4 weeks ahead of time (when you send them out 6 months in advance) they will either forget when the RSVP date is or something crazy might happen. Just a thought.
Post # 16
We only did them because we were having a holiday wedding. If it weren’t for that, they would have DEFINITELY be cut.