Post # 1
Looking for some advice on Save The Dates! I am getting married in middle of May or the first weekend in June (haven’t officially decided yet.) We are having a small wedding and reception. I’m inviting about 125 ish people, but I imagine that only about 50-60 will actually attend. However, the majority of the invited guests do not live in our city where the wedding is taking place. Because it is such a small amount of people, should I not waste time doing STD’s, or should I do them and hope that more people make plans to attend (if they know far in advance)?
What do you guys think? If you do think I should go ahead and do the STD’s, when should I do them with a late may/or early June wedding?
Hope this all makes sense!
Thanks, ladies 🙂
Post # 3
I think if you want it to be closer to the 125, then send out the save the dates so the out-of-town guests know to plan ahead. If you want the guest list to be closer to the 50, then don’t . . . I do have to say that out of town guests will surprise you. I bet you get a handful of them who are coming that you don’t expect to come.
Post # 4
I think that you should go by the distance the majority of your guests will be travelling to get to your wedding before you go by the size of your wedding–a STD is really about giving your guests notice so they can arrange said travel. Since it sounds like a lot of your guests WILL be travelling, then I’d send them.
However, there’s no law that says everyone must receive a STD (although everyone who receives a STD must receive an invite), so if you’re concerned about costs, you could just send them to people who are out of town.
Post # 5
I would send them. They are mainly for OTG so they can plan on getting transportation figured out and get off work if they need to. I think your guests would appreciate having it in writing plus it might keep you from having to answer the same questions over and over again in terms of logistics.
Post # 6
Honestly with all that you said it is even more of a reason to sent Save-The-Date Cards the fact that most of the possible guests are out of town they need notice and if you want a good turn out that is what you need to do.
Post # 7
The size is irrelevant. Guests still need ample time to make arrangements (schedule time off work, arrange travel, etc) regardless of how many are invited. But they aren’t required.