Etiquette Snob here… lol
STDs are fairly new on the Wedding scene.. they were dreamed up by the “Wedding Industry Complex” (or conspiracy, depending on how you look at it) so that Wedding Stationery Companies could make more money (not to mention Photographers who now do EPhoto Sessions)
The STD has replaced the once Engagement Announcement that would appear in the Local Newspaper’s Social Pages prior to the Wedding
In reality, an STD is nothing more than a “personalized hand-bill / flyer” that announces an upcoming event
Nothing more… nothing less
Where it gets tricky from an Etiquette POV socially is that they also include the words “Save The Date” which IMPLIES you are telling them not just of your recent Engagement but also that you INTEND to invite them to the Wedding
(Whereas the good old Newspaper Engagement Announcement just announced GOOD NEWS didn’t imply that anyone reading it was going to be Invited)
Where Brides run into issues therefore with STDs (and in reality, also when they announce their Engagements on Social Networking Sites) is because it is going out to Friends & Family they assume they are all invited.
So you better get the info right… cause it would be seen to be RUDE to do this, and then not invite these “friends” you’ve told
So BEFORE anyone prints & sends out an STD they should make sure they have 100% worked out the following details:
- The Date
- The Wedding Budget
- The Guest List
- The Venue
In so much as The Date & Venue, should be available, and that The Budget & Venue should be able to accommodate the Guest List.
Too many Brides2B newly engaged and excited have sent out STDs, only to discover that they didn’t work thru the bigger picture… and later on down the road find out that Their Venue doesn’t accommodate as many as they thought it would… or that due to costs their Guest List is too GRAND for what they can truly afford.
Not a good thing. As their is no “appropriate” way to rescind either a STD or an Invite without a loss of face.
So NO you don’t need em
YES eliminating them is a great way to save money
And IF YOU DO use them… make sure you do so correctly
Hope this helps,