Post # 1
I’ve been scouring all the previous/older posts about Sunday Weddings, to read the feedback and advise from past brides about this, and it seems like there’s mixed opinions about having a wedding on a Sunday night, which really doesnt help. I am a bit depressed about this, because I’ve been trying to work with our number one venue choice to see if we can meet their reception food/bev minimums without stretching our budget. Our tentative date is on a Saturday but so far its been challenging to make the budget work within the receptions required minimums. We could spend more , but to a certain point, the cost doesnt seem to be worth it. I am quickly realizing that with our guest count (55 people), that if we hold it on a Sunday, the required minimum is literally cut in half and we could use that money towards so many reception upgrades (better menu options, higher quality wines, full dessert bar, larger wedding suite, etc) and still stay within our wedding budget.
The problem is that I can’t seem to get over the mental thought of having the wedding on a Sunday, as I had always envisioned a Saturday evening affair (our ceremony is going to be outside), right before sunset, followed by a cocktail hour and reception into the night, with an afterparty at a lounge for the younger folks. But all of this seems “off” if we did this on Sunday. A sunday brunch wedding really isn’t appealing to me as an alternative. Most of my guests will be from Out of Town with a handful who are semi-local (2 hr drive).
Anyone who went through this, who can lend their advise? Any thoughts in general? Maybe I should just go with Sunday, bite the bullet and hope for the best? So stressed out……I am afraid people won’t come or everyone will leave right after dinner.
Post # 3
Sunday night weddings are tough. I know it would be hard for me and Fiance as we have a ton of church committments. I don’t think anyone would stay very late unless Monday was a holiday. People do have work etc. Many people may not want to take Monday off and some employers require a year’s advanced notice for vacation days. If you started your reception at 4pm that might work. I love the idea of you paying less. I am having mine on an off day too. We can’t do Saturday night because ALL the groomsmen are pastors and need to preach Sunday morning. So we are going for Friday instead. Try not to stress. It will work itself out.
Post # 4
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
We’re having a sunday evening wedding where Monday is a holiday (Columbus day). We invited 34 people, and 32 are coming. The only reason one couple responded “no” is because the wife is preggo and on bed rest. They would not be able to attend no matter what day of the week it is. Oh, and our wedding is at least a 1 hour drive away for everyone, so 85% of the guests are booking a hotel room for that night. My point is, the people who want to be there and support you on your wedding day will be there, smiling and happy, no matter what.
Now, your chances of a late-night raging dance party may be diminished. That was never our dreaam, so it was not a big deal for us. We wanted something more low-key all along. but if that is your dream, you might be making a tradeoff to have the venue you love. only you know which is a higher priority- the venue or the party vibe.
Post # 5
While our wedding was a Saturday evening event, I’ve been to Sunday afternoon weddings that were lovely. The only thing I remember people complaining about is not being able to watch the Patriots game, haha!
Post # 6
I wouldn’t mind attending a Sunday afternoon wedding, but I’d definitely be inclined to leave early at a Sunday evening one. It’s just inconvenient for people because A) people have to work on Monday B) if they have to travel, then they have to take an extra day off work.
If you want evening, do Friday or Saturday.
Post # 7
I agree with the others that you should probably chose a different day if evening is that important to you. We’re having a Sunday wedding, starting at 3:30 and everything will be wrapped up by 9pm.
Post # 8
I am having a Sunday evening affair, and I am honestly not worried about losing people. Within our group of friends and family, there have been numerous events during the week (birthdays, anniversary parties, work outings) and people are never afraid to stay into the later hours. Since our invites were sent out 2.5 months prior to the event, I have heard a lot of feedback from friends that they are planning on taking the morninng or full day after off, and making a three day weekend of it. They are excited for us, and want to be there to celebrate. Now, having said that, I am sure that we will lose some people earlier on (Parents friends, co-workers we aren’t super close friends with, etc,) but I think that the people closest to us will stay throughout the entire party. Also, most of my family are from Out of Town and are traveling in, so they will be here overnight that evening anyway. And they would have to take a day off regardless if it was Saturday or Sunday. With a Saturday affair, rehearsal would be Friday, so they need Friday off (same with all Bridal Party members, unless they are right in town with you). Sunday evening affair, rehearsal is Saturday, so take Monday off to recoup/travel home.
I am honestly not worried about it, and in making our decision, the budget PROS far outweighed any CONS that I could see with the next day being a work day.
Post # 9
We were in the same predicament with meeting venue minimums – we decided to go to the last weekend before peak season begins so that we could do it on a Saturday night. Most venues were trying to push us towards a Friday night or Sunday afternoon event, but I really was set on having it Saturday to ensure that more people would be able to attend. Is there an off-season that you can try to take advantage of?
I’m guessing you aren’t having the ceremony at a church since you mentioned it would be outside – but it is more difficult to get an officiant for a Sunday since they tend to have regular commitments.
Also, holiday’s like Columbus Day are not holiday’s for everyone – so I wouldn’t assume that if you did a Sunday night before a holiday that it would be any better in terms of attendance.
Whoever really wants to be there, will make an effor to be there. I have no problems taking a day off from work for someone important to me.
Post # 10
I would love to attend a Sunday wedding, but I know it’d be difficult for me to stay till the end if the reception went late. Is it more important to you to have a late-night event, or to have it at your top-choice venue? If you really want a Saturday night event, I’m SURE you can find a venue that fits your budget. But if it’s the venue you really want, maybe you can do a Sunday event in which the reception is over at a somewhat more decent hour? I’m not saying a brunch or even lunch. Just that the reception could end at 9:00 or so instead of midnight?
Or…how do you feel about a Friday? Fridays are much cheaper than Sundays but they still have the ability to have a late-night event. 🙂
Post # 11
Could you consider a Friday wedding? We ran into the same problem because there were no saturdays left at our venue, so it was either Friday or Sunday. We went with the Friday because we did not want people to go home early for work the next day, we want a big party!
I agree with the other comments about an evening wedding on a Sunday, it probably is not too convenient for people who have to work or from out of town.
Post # 12
@lmoss78: Totally agree, I would take a day off of work in a heartbeat to celebrate a friends wedding on a Sunday night!
Post # 13
I had a Sunday evening wedding 4-10pm. I really wanted Saturday, I had more than enough people for the minimums and all that jazz, but the stinking venue didnt have any Saturdays from all of April through September available that would work. They had 3 available, and I couldnt do any of them. So sunday evening it was. It didnt matter if it was Sunday for OOTs since they had Monday off anyways and most flew out Monday afternoon or early evening. I had my heart set on that location b/c of price, my second runner up would have been 3x the cost, so I just went for it. Some people took off early (though these same people may have taken off early anyways regardless since they also played the baby card and had to get home to their kids), some stayed. We had one friend stay till the end and then some and probably didnt get home till midnight… he got up at 5 or 6am Monday to prep for a meeting he forgot about and didnt even skip out early to do it. People who really cant sacrafice one day of sleep or one morning, forget it. People who want to celebrate with you will.
EDIT: And I really dont understand why people are ok with taking off friday or taking a half day friday to go to a wedding on Friday, but not take the same amount of time off to recover *after* a Sunday wedding. You take the same amount of time off! Its just either before or after the wedding!
Post # 14
I’ve never been to a Sunday wedding but I considered it for us since it seemed at first only Sundays were available. We went with a Saturday night after all but as a guest, I’d prefer a wedding on a Sunday rather than a Friday where I have to take off work. That’s just my opinion though : )
Post # 15
@pinkshoes: I would actually prefer a Sunday wedding to a Friday wedding, personally. There is never enough time to get your act together to go to a Friday wedding if you have to work most of the day.
Post # 16
@pinkshoes: You’re totally right about the “people who want to celebrate with you, will” thing.
I only suggested Friday because I’ve been to four Friday weddings, all of which started in the evening, and therefore I didn’t have to take a single minute off of work. I guess based on my experience, I assumed that Friday weddings *usually* (but not always) start in the evening/after work hours.
Edit: Also, I’m assuming that I’m an in-town guest. So I didn’t take travel time into consideration. 🙂 It’s a whole different story for Out of Town guests.