(Closed) Are Sunday weddings selfish?

posted 8 years ago in Reception
  • poll: IS a Sunday wedding a problem?
    Yes, it's selfish and inconsiderate to guests : (7 votes)
    4 %
    No, as long as it is early in the evening : (52 votes)
    26 %
    No, it's about the two of you and sharing your day, and loved ones won't care what time or day it is : (96 votes)
    48 %
    It's not the best choice, but it's acceptable : (42 votes)
    21 %
    other : (2 votes)
    1 %
  • Post # 3
    18641 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    I don’t think that a dinner wedding that would end before 9 or so and people live nearby would be rude at all.

    Post # 4
    1403 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    The only reason people would be tired at work the next day is if the wedding went until 2am or something, and yours is wrapping up quite a bit earlier than that.

    Actually, people are more available on Sunday afternoons than on Saturdays, in general.  I think you’ll find fewer scheduling conflicts with your guests if you pick a Sunday.

    I think for a relaxed comfortable dinner reception, a Sunday evening is just perfect and very appropriate.  Your concerns about crowds and affordability are good reasons to have your wedding on a Sunday.

    Post # 5
    2788 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    we are getting married on a sunday and no one has mentioned (or hinted) that it is rude or inconsiderate…at least not to my face!

    sunday weddings are popular in different cultures.  for instance, some jewish couples wont get married on saturdays, unless it is late at night, because of the religious reasons.

    Post # 6
    1763 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I wouldn’t say it is selfish, but it would definately be inconvenient to out of town guests. Those same people may have had to take time off on Friday for a Saturday wedding, but having to drive home on a Sunday night and have to work Monday STINKS!


    Post # 7
    948 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2010

    I would be all for it, and if I had to travel I would just take Monday off.  I’ll take any excuse to take a day off from work!

    Post # 8
    2476 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I think with your very small guest list and dinner plans, it’s perfectly fine to do it on a Sunday.  It sounds like a typical family dinner for Fiance and me, hehe.  We get together often with my Future In-Laws for Sunday night dinners… and there’s always around 12-15 of us.  We get home around 9 or 9:30 and it’s totally fine.  🙂

    Post # 9
    1103 posts
    Bumble bee

    I agree that due to the circumstances (i.e. small guest list who presumably don’t need to travel, dinner without dancing) a Sunday night is perfectly fine. It might lend a different feeling in general, e.g. people won’t be able to catch up over brunch the next day and so it might feel like less of an “event” for some, but that doesn’t make it selfish or a bad idea at all. In fact you could look at it as the opposite – you are taking up much less of your guests’ weekend than you otherwise would ( e.g. getting ready from early-ish Saturday for a wedding that afternoon, then sleeping in on Sunday to recover from a bigger night).

    Post # 10
    71 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    most jewish weddings happen on sundays as fridays are off limits and if you have a kosher wedding on saturday night, the food won’t be fresh.. so we are having a full on bash on a sunday and there’s nothing wrong with that..

    Post # 11
    7052 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I just know that it’d be hard possibly for some guests to attend if you have an evening wedding on a Sunday as out of town guests would have to take an additional day off of work to attend (a monday).

    I think brunch weddings btw are incredible!  Love this trend 🙂  

    Post # 13
    1523 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    My wedding is on a Sunday, but also a holiday weekend. I think the holiday weekend aspect makes things easier on my guests, but I am sure there are some people who think I am being selfish or something!

    Anyways, I would never think that someone who planned a Sunday wedding was selfish. Do what works best for you and your FI!

    Post # 14
    5262 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I don’t think they’re a huge deal anymore. Even though some people who work traditional 9-5 jobs may leave early, many jobs are no longer even like that. Nurses, aids, etc, often work all kinds of hours and need to take off for Saturday weddings as well. 

    There are two very set in their ways schools of thought on this. I’m in the laid back one that says if someone doesn’t like it, they don’t have to come. But if they care about you, they’ll find a way to be there even if they’re not partying until the very end. 

    Future Sister-In-Law & Future Brother-In-Law had their wedding at 3:30 on a Sunday, and then a gap before the reception, which started at 5. No one complained (actually, a lot of the older generation approved because Sunday weddings used to be traditional) and almost everyone stayed until 11 or 11:30 pm. 

    Post # 15
    16213 posts
    Honey Beekeeper

    With a small wedding of family and close friends, none of your guests would mind, anyway, I am sure. But you are being VERY considerate with your choice.

    Post # 16
    6572 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2010

    we had ours on a sunday b/c jews aren’t supposed to get married on shabbat, and if we were going to do that the wedding wouldn’t start until really late sat and then everyone would be starving by dinner time. a lot of oot guests couldn’t make it, but i think that was the only issue. with such a small wedding i feel like the people will be close enough to you that they can miss a day of work.

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