(Closed) Are Thank you cards something of the past?

posted 9 years ago in 40 Something
Post # 32
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Busy Beekeeper

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@december bride: people are just rude and lazy. I’m still pissed for not receiving a thank you card from this one couple. I sent a gift and had to spend a night at hotel to attend their Friday night wedding. This was 3-4 years ago. Meanwhile everyday she’s posting up on FB or another forum that be belong to. So yeah you have had PLENTY of time to do it.

Vmec a paper-less wedding is a fab idea. I wouldn’t have an issue with personalized email.

Post # 33
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

thank you!!!

 

Shouldn’ve seen the post a while ago… overwhelming majority gave me flack and was against the idea…

Post # 34
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I always send hand written thank you cards for everything! I think its a dieing trend in our generation but I have good manners and was raised that way so I still send them out. (I am 26 if anyone was intrested in our ages in relation to the whole thank you card topic… And I have a two year old son so when ever I write out a thank you note for a gift he recived I have him add to it by coloring in the card.)

Post # 35
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Of the two people I gave wedding gifts to this past summer (one in May and the other in June), neither has sent me a thank you note. I am really annoyed with it to be honest.

Post # 36
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

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@december bride:  I am with the no-gift next time crowd!  I have received two photo cards with nay a handwritten signature on it.  Their baby shower gifts will be from the dollar store with a $5 budget, including card and gift wrap!

This has become my biggest wedding pet peeve.  You can see it from my past posts.  I am so SHOCKED at the excuses falling from people’s mouth about a courtesy for a gift.  I am 32 and have always hand-written thank you notes.  To not do otherwise seems a selfish.

Post # 38
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1993

I still haven’t gotten a thank you from a wedding in May – but I can’t imagine the couple won’t send one as she did for the shower gift I sent. I handwrote all of ours and got them out within a month after we got our pictures back (did a picture ty). I think it’s incredibly rude not to send a thank-you for a wedding gift.
I actually saw one bride on fb asking a family member when they were sending their card. Can’t wait to see their thank you. Considering they didn’t get us a gift at all, and we did for them.

And as far as the meal and dance being enough of a thank-you – that was the couples’ choice to do. That excuse sounds selfish and entitled.

Post # 39
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Thank you cards are NOT old fashioned! I think if my guests did not receive a card, they would be offended. You’ve gotta send ’em.

Post # 40
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1993

duplicate

Post # 41
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Currently working on our hand written photo cards as we speak. Yes they are kind of a pain in the ass but chivarly is not dead! And hand writen notes are such a wonderful way to send love. 🙂

it was  also semi-painless cause I got to design the thank yous myself 🙂 and i’m 25

Post # 42
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Ugh!! I hate writing thank you notes!! Mainly because I’m embarassed by my handwriting. It looks like it belongs to a third grader.

That being said, I have 5 to write today. We are doing our best to keep on top of them before the wedding as to not be completely overwhelmed afterwards, when we will have a million more. We plan to write them out on our overseas flight, if we can’t sleep. Besides turbulence will be a good excuse for my writing.

Even though I was never too good at writing them when I was a kid, I’ve gotten better over the years. With my mom and grandma drilling into my head the importance of them, I realize for those who are generous enough with their time and money to get us a gift, it’s the least we can do.

Post # 43
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Busy Beekeeper

i don’t understand the need for handwritten. i  understand the need for personal note, but i think it can be typed or emailed.  We live in the electronic age.  for my wedding i did handwritten notes because i bought thank you cards that matched my invites at the time i ordered my invites.  but let’s say i figured out how to run them through the printer and typed personal  messages to everyone. or did some other computer design and printed them.  what’s wrong with that?  i didn’t even think of that at the time, but now i think it would have been a neat idea.  I think email is okay too as long as it is a personal note and it would be nicer to send a fancy email, like an e-card or something.  

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