Are ‘the bigger the better’ diamonds the ideal where you live?

posted 3 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Are ‘the bigger the better’ diamonds the ideal where you live?
    Yes, bigger than better is the popular ideal (and I mostly agree) : (76 votes)
    35 %
    Yes, bigger than better is the popular ideal (but not for me) : (33 votes)
    15 %
    No, more modest rings are common here : (102 votes)
    46 %
    Other : (9 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 46
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    394 posts
    Helper bee

    I live in the south of the uk, near London, and among my friends diamonds are a real no-no. A close friend was given a 1ct heirloom diamond and debated for months whether she could wear it due to ethics. She had some very strong comments about the diamond mining industry. So big diamonds are almost unheard of in my experience here. Most people have small rings with different gemstones. I have been very upfront about my moissanite to nip anything in the bud before I get comments about how unethical my ring is!!!  Most of my friends work in education like me which is traditionally very left wing in the uk. 

    Post # 47
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    394 posts
    Helper bee

    It’s so interesting hearing all the different opinions depending on where people live! 

    Post # 48
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    1815 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2016

    I’m in Ottawa, ON – I’m sure if you hang out with the ambassadors wives and all those fancy people, you’d see some amazing jewelry. In my world (mom, medical librarian, College Prof), you don’t see large stones. My 1.09 carat stone is the largest diamond I’ve seen IRL.

    I’ve been looking around at rings more lately – most of my friends wear a wedding band alone or nothing at all. Only 1 friend wears her full wedding set – and it’s very dainty. 

    Post # 49
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    1700 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2016

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    sparklebee83 :  this is my experience as well and I’ve been in the Cambridge area for 15 years. 

    Lots of older wealthy people in the area also choose to not wear rings in my experience, which is very different from Boston’s burbs! I would also say the majority of women in Boston do not have large rings, especially beyond 1.7ish carats for a solitaire. 

    Post # 50
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    1224 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2018

    I’m from Seattle, WA, and around here I’ve noticed that plain gold bands, gemstones and ethical diamonds are the priority.  I’ve seen mid 30s/40s women with larger stones (1.5-2), but it’s unusual.  My fiancé paid a small fortune for my 1 carat solitaire because it was high quality and had all kinds of ethical certifications, and the band was recycled gold.  We could have gotten something much larger for that cost, but up here, it’s really not the priority.  My family thinks my 1 carat is huge. 

    Post # 51
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    279 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2017

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    hikingbride :  I’m in Utah too! 😊 I feel like I see more intricate designs rather than large stones here. Or massive settings with smaller stones. 

    Post # 52
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    741 posts
    Busy bee

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    galadriel :  “I have never seen a center stone under 1 carat”

    This is literally crazy to me!

    Post # 53
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2017

    In the UK (North Yorkshire) I only ever see modest sized rings, and I have never ever had a conversation about someone’s ring size. Vancouver’s less pretentious mentally seems right up my alley personally (Canadian bee here), I have a sapphire ring! 

    Post # 54
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2016

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    cuscotopia :  That’s been my experience here as well! Not big stones but the rings are often still pretty big because of the setting.

    Post # 55
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    468 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2016

    I’m in Australia and bigger certainly isn’t better where I am. I’ve seen very few rings over 1 carat. I personally wouldn’t want a ring over 1 carat because it can be seen as a little bit gaudy/excessive where I am. It’s considered a bit in bad taste to showcase how wealthy you are.

     

    Post # 56
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    250 posts
    Helper bee

    This is such an interesting topic! 🙂 I live in Sweden, and the ring culture here is completely different. A traditional engagement ring is just a plain gold band (sometimes perhaps with small diamonds) and a wedding ring could either be a ring with some kind of stone (a small one), but it is also very common for the wedding ring to be a band – most women at 40 or up wear two gold bands, but I see more variation among younger women in my generation. However, even when someone wears rings with stones instead of plain bands, the stones are very small compared to rings on the Bee: it could for example be a small five stone ring or a 0.10-0.30 solitaire. The largest diamond I have ever seen in real life is my sister in law’s 0.5 ct solitaire, and that is HUGE compared to most rings here! I have probably only seen diamonds larger than that in pictures of celebrities or belonging to the Royal family haha 🙂 When my parents celebrated their 25th wedding anniversary, my mom called me and said that my dad had given her a “huge” diamond ring, which was a 0.35 ct diamond (her original is 0.10) 🙂 So all the variation on the Bee is super interesting to me! 🙂 

    Post # 57
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    680 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2015 - Beautiful place.

     Not where I’m from.. although some people have bigger diamonds, but not too big. 

    Post # 58
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    129 posts
    Blushing bee

    I am an American living in Germany and most women here don’t even receive or wear an engagement ring diamond or not. 

    It seems most people regardless of gender wear simple gold or silver wedding bands. It can be a bit sad really. 

    My engagement ring therefore is a simple yellow gold mossanite. Dainty and cute. cool

    Post # 59
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    Busy bee

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    samantha83 : It seems most people regardless of gender wear simple gold or silver wedding bands. It can be a bit sad really. 

    That’s a pretty rude judgement about a culture, why would it be sad?

     

    Post # 60
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    129 posts
    Blushing bee

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    whnlz :  Sorry, allow me to clarify. I meant it is “sad” in that people do not seem to be excited about engagement or marriage as much as they are in other parts of the world. Not about cost, metal or stone type. My own ring was only 200.00 Euros. 

    Not judgement meant against Germans. After all I have lived here for four years, teach German children, speak fluent German and am marrying a wonderful German man. 

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