Are ‘the bigger the better’ diamonds the ideal where you live?

posted 3 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Are ‘the bigger the better’ diamonds the ideal where you live?
    Yes, bigger than better is the popular ideal (and I mostly agree) : (76 votes)
    35 %
    Yes, bigger than better is the popular ideal (but not for me) : (33 votes)
    15 %
    No, more modest rings are common here : (102 votes)
    46 %
    Other : (9 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 91
    Member
    784 posts
    Busy bee

    I live in the southeast US. When I’m at, the standard for those getting married in my age range (upper 20s/early 30s) is a carat or larger. I don’t know anyone who has a ring with less than that. Those who got married younger have smaller carat sizes (.5 average). So, for the most part, bigger is considered better in my area. 

    Post # 92
    Member
    9 posts
    Newbee

    Hi! 

    I’m a fellow Vancouverite and thought I would comment. 🙂 I just got engaged a few days ago, and I do agree that in Vanocuver it’s not necessarily “bigger is better”. Interesting to see how it varies from city to city! 

    Post # 93
    Member
    77 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    Smoochism :  yes! Also from CT and huge rocks everywhere 

    Post # 94
    Member
    77 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    I live on the Main Line in PA where there there is an obscene amount of “old money” around and there are some massive rocks around here.  Lots os wealthy suburban moms with 2.5 carat plus rings around.  Where I grew up in CT, same thing.  Most of my friends however don’t have anything over 1 carat. 

    Post # 95
    Member
    88 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2017

    Wow, this is super interesting.  I never thought about it really until I received my ring two weeks ago.  I thought it was on the larger side but still not out of the ordinary — only two or three of my close friends have received engagement rings and they were all unusual (antique, sapphire).  

    Mine is over 2 carats and now I know why it seems a little big to me.  Maybe for most of the world it is big! I live in San Francisco and work in Palo Alto so we don’t have a crazy money culture but people really do have a lot of money, even if they don’t like to show it off. 

    Now I’m thinking that’s why I haven’t gotten many compliments.  I think my ring is beautiful and sparkly (it’s the highest quality stone) but for some reason, people at work and acquaintances haven’t said a word.  It was kind of hurting my feelings but now maybe they aren’t complimenting it because it’s so large?  I don’t know.  A few close friends have said nice things but no one has mentioned the size really except for my brother… is it so obvious that I’m not picking up on the social cues?  

    Now I’m a bit confused. I love my ring and my fiance loved getting it for me and that’s what matters.  But my feelings have been a bit hurt because really no one has gushed at all….. IMG_6084IMG_6099

    Post # 96
    Member
    8988 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    rosebuddy :  

    Well I’ll gush ! That is  a beautiful ring. I love a classic solitaire and it’s oval shape adds that extra difference   – perhaps  round your way people have got accustomed lot of halo-ing etc ? 

    Post # 97
    Member
    250 posts
    Helper bee

    rosebuddy :  Your ring is sooo beautiful!! Don’t read too much into people’s reactions 🙂 

    Post # 98
    Member
    707 posts
    Busy bee

    I live in the SF Bay Area. In my close circles, 1.5 carats is the largest I’ve noticed. My own stone is just under 0.5 carats, which suits me perfectly, and isn’t a massive outlier. Bigger is definitely not better, and pretty is pretty at any size. 

    In tech (which is kinda where the wealth is in the SF Bay Area), we often dress like hobos to work, collect large paychecks, and then go back to our million dollar homes (as if you could even find a home for anything under that!). Outward appearances reveal relatively little about what a person can afford. Likewise, rings tend to reflect personal tastes and not the upper limits of what we could reasonably afford. 

    Post # 99
    Member
    707 posts
    Busy bee

    rosebuddy :  It is a gorgeous ring! But what does it say about me that my eyes first went to the Stanford campus in the background?

    No one’s complimented me on my small ring either, but I guess people here just don’t gush over rings that much. I wouldn’t take it personally at all!smile

    Post # 100
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    88 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2017

    techmom :  Thanks for that reassurance!  Yes, maybe that’s it — people just aren’t really interested that much in rings.  In fact, the only person that ever gushed was a friend originally from Miami.  She’s very glamorous and is into designer things and all that… so maybe us Northern Californians just don’t notice or think to look.  I really love it though and that’s what counts!  Thanks for the compliments.  I tell myself I don’t need compliments but it is nice!! 

    Post # 101
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    1706 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2009

    rosebuddy :  It is lovely. Don’t worry about non-comments. I’m sure I could wear a 10 carat diamond and not a single person at my office would notice. Just not in their thing. 

    Post # 102
    Member
    49 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: October 2018

    Suprised to see the results here! I’m from Orange County, CA and now work in Los Angeles. The size of your rock is really important here! It’s not unusual to see 4cts or bigger on some of the wives here. Personally I think anything larger then 1.5 is huge. 

    LA doesn’t do practical OR modest. Haha 

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