(Closed) Are the dads supposed to match the groomsmen?

posted 7 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
4042 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

We put our dads in the same tux but different tie/vest. We kept the tie/vest neutral though, in black. I thought it would be weird to have them in a color. They all looked fine.

Post # 4
47421 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@carolinagirl104:  The Dads only need to match the level of formality. 

If the Dads are wearing black tuxes, I suggest a traditional black vest and tie. Colored vests and ties can look a bit “prom-ish”.

Post # 5
10040 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Our groomsmen wore charcoal grey and the dad’s wore the same tux but in black. I think as long as the formality is similar you can pretty much do whatever you prefer.

Post # 6
732 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: City, State


                   I actually just went to the tux shop with my fiance today. The groom stands out by himself, the groomsmen will all match and they actually suggested a completely different suit/tux for the fathers (same for both fathers) but we are letting our own fathers choose if they wanna wear the tux from the store or use their own suits.  

My fiance will wear ivory vest and tie and pocket square with black jacket
Groomsmen will wear black vest, teal tie and pocket square with black jacket
**The vests for the groom and groomsmen are same pattern where the fathers are a different pattern on the vest**
Fathers (if they choose to wear) will be in a charcoal grey vest, tie and pocket square with black jacket  

My mom isn’t wear colours of the wedding but I think it will work good with her outfit. If you get your mom to either wear silver or grey it should go with your dads tux. Or even just accents in jewellry. I don’t think it will look weird in pictures at all. Try searching google for wedding party pictures (or even here) and try to find something similar to your choices. Sometimes being visual helps!!

Post # 7
2608 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI

We are doing similar, same tux for the Dad’s but with a grey tie. Groomsmens are purple to match bridesmaids. All are wearing vests that match the tuxedo fabric, not the satin vests. 

Post # 8
116 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

We had the groom, three groomsmen, and I had my stepdad and my brother walk me down.  All six of them wore the same tux.  The groom wore charcoal vest and tie, the father and brother wore black vest and tie, and the groomsmen wore the blue that matched the bridesmaids.  It all looked fine!! 

I think you can do whatever want, so long as YOU and the SO are happy with it! 

Post # 9
7547 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

Our dads dressed in their own suits just like the moms have their own dresses. It seems kind of strange to me for the dads to coordinate if they’re not in the wedding party. 

Post # 10
2605 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

No, it doesn’t look weird at all!  Like you, our groomsmen were in green ties/vests, and the dad wore the same tux, but paired with silver ties/vests.  Unforuntately, I apparently don’t have a picture on this computer that shows the dads and groomsmen together for reference.

Post # 11
1081 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@carolinagirl104: Groom, groomsmen, dads, and grandfather (only one living) all wore the same black tux… different ties/vests though.

Groom: Blue vest, blue tie
Groomsmen: Black vest, blue tie
Dads/Grandfather: black vest, black tie


It looked great. 🙂

Post # 12
1722 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@carolinagirl104:  I don’t think it will be weird at all.  We are doing the same…all the groomsman/dads/grandfathers will be in the same color tux, the only difference will be the ties and vest.  Groomsman will be in blue, officiant will be gray…and dad’s/grandpa’s will have gray vests but be free to choose their own tie 🙂

Post # 13
11535 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

Every male in our bridal party, from DH to all of his groomsmen, to the junior groomsman, to our ring bearer, as well as both of our fathers, wore the exact same formalwear:  black, full dress tails with white pique vests, white shirts, and white bowties.  They all looked great.

Post # 14
279 posts
Helper bee

my father in law will be in the same black tux as the Groomsmen but my Dad will be in a navy blue suit. Whatever they’re comfortable with I think it’s great. My Dad is a “march to the beat of your own drum” kinda guy and I wouldn’t have it any other way!

Post # 15
2521 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

No- that is typical.  The dads don’t want to look like old groomsmen.  We put the groomsmen and the dads in the same black tux with a black matching vest.  The groomsmen will wear dark durple ties to match the bridesmaids and the dads will wear grey ties to be more neutral.  Generally, they should look different (even just something simple like a different tie) but not clash.  

Post # 16
3256 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

They can.  They don’t have to.  I wore a morning coat, the dads wore strollers, and te groomsment wore mid-grey suits.

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