(Closed) Are the days before the wedding really THAT stressful?

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
7295 posts
Busy Beekeeper

i am 3 weeks out and already stressing a bit! and i dont even have that much to do! i am just stressed because i feel like there is so many things, but really i think it will be good. i do remember seeing a friends facebook status a few days before her wedding saying she should have taken the whole week off work!

Post # 4
645 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

You sound like me as far as personalities go…I am really laid back and calm. Although I had a couple last minute things to do, I really was not super stressed a couple days before the wedding. If anything, it all went so fast and was so exciting I didn’t really have time to think. My mom was really involved and helped me with the planning, so that was certainly helpful. But i think if you are organized, you won’t have an issue.

Post # 5
122 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I am pretty laid back also and had most things planned to be finished last week and over this weekend so I can relax this week and just wrap the favours, get nails done and hair coloured but then last week I got sick and couldnt do anything.   The last 2 days have been manic but I think to be honest I will still be pretty relaxed this week,  

Leave enough time in case something does go wrong but focus on enjoying the lead up to your day.

Post # 6
336 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Wow, this is so weird, I was just about to ask the exact same question for the exact same reason! I am planning on baking my own dessert bar, as well as visiting the flower market and doing my own flowers in the days before the wedding. Everyone has been saying “You can’t possibly think you can do all that, you will already have so much to do the week before the wedding!” and honestly, I can’t really think of ANYTHING else I will have to do. I won’t be working that week, and I will be staying at my venue so decorating can be done whenever, and there will be no travelling or transporting anything. I think I’ll be bored and get too nervous if I have nothing to occupy myself with!

I too am not one to stress too much – beforehand (WAY beforehand, like now), yes, I totally overplan, and make 10 millions spreadsheets and lists, but when it comes down to it, if I run out of time I have no problem scrapping things from the DIY list. I will bake until I run out of time. I only want to make 1 bouquet and chuck the rest of the flowers into a few vases. No biggie. I feel very confident that with my spreadsheets and lists and hyper-organisation I will be fine, but everyone else seems to think I’m crazy!

I would love to hear some more answers about this! Great question! Wink

Post # 7
2116 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I hope its not too bad. Hopefully I’ll have everything  done because I’ll have about 20 friends/family in from Australia that week and I need to spend time showing them my city!

Post # 8
1701 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

My wedding was in my hometown.  I came in the Saturday before.  While I was pretty organized, there were a lot of last minute details I couldn’t take care of beforehand.  I also had a make-up trial fail and flower girl basket fail, which added to some last minute scrambling.  On top of all that, I had evicted a tenant from my rental property so I was trying to do some repairs, show to prospective tenants, etc.  I don’t know that I was that stressed, just super-busy.  If I lived there, so many of those things wouldn’t have been last minute.

Post # 9
4546 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I was VERY ahead of schedule with doing things for my wedding. However, there were little things that came up that made it somwhat stressful. For example, at the last minute my mother invited another guest (which was a HUGE deal since the IL’s were paying for our reception NOT my mother). The tables were already made up and my mother told me they were coming after they had already left from another state and I didn’t have their contact info so it’s not like I could uninvite them. It all worked out, but it was still stressful and not something I could have planned for. Plus there were out of town people who wanted to see us before the wedding so we saw a few of them, which was worth it but added a little to the stress of fitting everything in. The day of the wedding I was very relaxed and calm but the days before the wedding WERE a little hectic! Nothing I couldn’t handle but a bit hectic just the same.

Post # 10
1077 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

There are only so many hours in the day, and we all need to eat/sleep.  If you end up w/ every second booked, you’ll either be:

a.  uber-organized and get everything done without a second to spare and not stressed b/c you know your schedule and the unexpected never bites you in the bum.

b.  a combination of the unknown and disorganization means that you don’t have time to finish everything easily so you either:

i.  Burn the midnight oil to make it happen.

ii.  Say “screw it, who needs that thing anyway?” and show up to your wedding mellow and rested.


I’m pretty stressed right now, but I’m still having fun bringing it all together.

Post # 11
2600 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

@MrsP2011:  Don’t let the world make you think you should be stressed!  If you are laid back in general, that’s typically how you’ll be at the wedding and the days leading up to it.

I’ve been a wedding coordinator for years, and usually brides I’ve been working with that are chill in planning the wedding remain so that week. 

And YAY! I am half Australian and my father’s family is from Brisbane 🙂

Good luck – I’m sure you’ll be just fine!  Take care of everything ahead of time that you can so you can just enjoy those days with family and friends as you finish up the details.

Post # 12
6572 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

I had a lot of help from my husband and family, which made the days before really fun and nice rather then stressful even though we had tons to do.

Friday my husband and I brought all of our crap to the venue and then we had a dinner with family and a blessing at Temple. Saturday my girls and I went for mani’s and pedi’s, then we had a rehearsal brunch, then we went to the venue (where we stayed) to do the centerpieces (again, had tons of help with this) and dinner with my family. Sunday was the wedding. We had also made all the favors, cookies, but we made them way ahead of time, packaged them, and froze them in their packaging so I wouldn’t have to worry about that.

I was extremely prepared. I finished everything that could be done before hand a month before the wedding. I had everything for the wedding piled into one corner of the room so I knew I wouldn’t forget anything. It made life a lot easier that way!

Post # 13
2271 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Yes, they really are that stressful but you will survive!

Post # 14
952 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

This is a great way to delegate people to help out. You will probably have to make a zillion phone calls so maybe Fiance or parents can help out with that. Try to get all the DIY done before this week and box everything up in an organized fashion. I was the most stressed about 2 weeks before because I felt everything all of sudden needed to get done, such as the confirmation phone calls. But luckily Darling Husband said he would do all of that and I can just focus on what I needed to get done for myself. I also found the hall decorating quite stressful because there were like 20 people constantly coming up to me asking me where things go. I’m not too sure how to get around this one though, because I didn’t want people to put things where they weren’t supposed to go!

Post # 15
9053 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

You know, I didn’t find it that bad.  I took the whole week off work expecting to have to get things done.  Really, all I did that week was go to the flower market and point at the flowers I wanted for my aunt to make stuff with, picked up the mini donuts I’d pre-ordered and packed our favour boxes with the help of about 5 other people, got my nails done… oh, and my mom decided I needed a corset under my dress, so we shopped for that.

Other than that, I lounged around the pool with my cousins and bridesmaids.

Post # 16
5921 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

Yes, it is that stressful – even if you are super organized.  I own my own event planning business, and I was really, really stressed.


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