Post # 1
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Bumble bee
I know absolutely nothing about men’s fashion, at all.. So I decided to check out some websites and see what possibilities there are. I looked at menswearhouse.com, under the “Wedding” section, and found one I liked a lot… showed fiance, and he said, “No way, that’s a SUIT. We’re wearing TUXES!”
I still don’t really know what the heck the difference is. :/
When I looked up tuxedos specifically, I didn’t like any of them (of course, I only looked at one website, and only for a few minutes). The “lapel” (I think that’s what it’s called) looks shiny, like satin, on most of them.. and it looks awkward to me that it’s a different fabric.
I asked my fiance why he didn’t like the suit I liked, and he looked at me like I was crazy for even suggesting he wear a SUIT to our wedding…. And I decided I wanted to ask the hive….
Did/will the men in your bridal party wear SUITS or TUXES? What was your reason for choosing one or the other?
And, are there tuxedos where the lapel ISN’T a different fabric?
Post # 3
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Worker bee
Mine are wearing kilts! My fiance is immigrating from scotland:)
Post # 4
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Helper bee
I don’t know 🙁 There’s only Fiance and his best man… they just went out and got outfits. I have no idea what they are and I won’t until the wedding day. Eep!
Post # 5
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Honey bee
@laekna: jealous! My Fiance was born and raised in Glasgow and I can not get him to agree to a kilt!!!!!!!! Neither of his brothers did either, but I’m still a bit sad.
Fiance and the Groomsmen will be in suits. fI’s choice. Tuxes are too formal for our style.
Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
- Wedding: September 2013 - B&B
Suits! We actually got a super super good sale at Kohls, so the groomsmen were able to purchase their suits for only $100 🙂 For us it was cost effective and the groomsmen can wear them again! Suits fit us and our wedding style.
Post # 7
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Bumble bee
Some guys like the idea of getting all dressed up for their wedding the same way some women do. Most guys don’t get that many chances to wear a tux in everyday life. I wouldn’t begrudge him the opportunity.
If you don’t like satin lapels, they are available with grosgrain, or even plain wool. My Fiance owns the tux he’ll be wearing and the lapels are grosgrain. It’s pretty understated.
There is a pretty funny thread on the Bee right now entitled something like “Don’t Wear A Tux In The Daytime.” Check it out for a giggle.
Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
My fiance and the groomsmen are in suits – it’s what they wanted to wear, but if he had wanted to wear a tux, then that would be fine too. A little strange, because it’s a fairly casual wedding, but I get to wear whatever I want, so he should too!
@laekna: My dad’s wearing a kilt! So is my uncle and a few other family members.
Post # 9
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Honey bee
I voted suit. FH’s going to be wearing a grey suit, but he’ll also have a nice vest too because you never know what the weather going to be like in March in Alabama.
Post # 10
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Busy bee
I actually wanted him to wear a suit, but he insisted on tuxes for him and his guys. Seeing as that was one of the few things he felt strongly about, I was ok with it.
They def. all don’t have shiny lapels. Try going to some stores and just looking at some of the different examples they have.
Post # 11
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Worker bee
@lovelove1028: The shiny lapel is actually what qualifies it as a tux! And you typically see the satin strip down the pant legs. I personally LOVE the look of a satin lapel, especially if it’s just the outside: ( http://0.tqn.com/d/mensfashion/1/0/N/G/1/Gary_Oldman.jpg ), but it’s not for everyone! No shame in just wearing a black suit!
Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper
I told my Fiance I didn’t care what he was wearing. He chose to wear a tux. We gave the same option to every guy in our wedding party, and everyone chose a tux. I guess it’s fitting since we’re having a late evening wedding, but really, I just didn’t care.
Post # 13
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Bumble bee
@geekspice: “Some guys like the idea of getting all dressed up for their wedding the same way some women do. Most guys don’t get that many chances to wear a tux in everyday life.” Haha that’s almost EXACTLY what his explanation was!!
I am leaving this decision totally up to him.. I will just gently suggest that something other than satin lapels looks nice. 🙂
Post # 14
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Busy bee
I would say it really depends on the feeling of the wedding – outdoors, daylight, more casual feel all go towards suit. Evening, inside venue, if you’re trying to get a classier feel go towards tux.
A fun alternative: suits with bow ties! I really wanted my DH to do this – http://cdn.greenweddingshoes.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/06/fun_bowties_wedding_groom_05.jpg
Another alternative: groom in tux, groomsmen in suits so that the groom stands out.
Post # 15
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Blushing bee
@lovelove1028: mine are wearing traditional victorian attire. 😀
Post # 16
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Honey bee
The guys will be in black suits- even my 16 month old son!