- 8 years ago
- Wedding: April 2011
I second the suggestion to try to make plans with some friends who might also be alone. My husband and I live in TN but both sets of parents are in MA. We go home to MA for Christmas but I can’t get time off of work for both holidays so we stay here in TN for Thanksgiving. We have been going to my good friend’s house every year since we’ve lived here and I love it!
We’re either spending it alone, or with a couple of friends (not sure if they’re coming yet). I’m really used to it by now. For four years of college, I was in CA and my family was in CT so it just didn’t make sense to travel home for a five day break when there was a month-long vacation coming up a couple weeks after that. It’s the same thing now: my husband (his family is also back east) is in grad school in California and he gets more time off at Christmas than Thanksgiving, so we go home then.
I am so used to it at this point… there’s two variants on Thanksgiving that feel traditional and right in my mind. Sitting at home with family with crisp fall weather, and a small makeshift but fun celebration with friends in nice weather on an empty college campus.
We’re spending it alone again this year. As others have suggested, invite friends, neighbors, co-workers over… there are others who probably feel lonely as well.
Or go volunteer at a local soup kitchen (to keep perspective) and serve those who feel/exist alone most of the time. Our parents had us do that as kids and it has always stuck with me– especially when I begin throwing myself a pity party. 🙂
I know how you feel about missing the family! We are taking our honeymoon over Thanksgiving to Belize (terrible, I know, ha). We won’t get to have any time with my family and it kinda breaks my heart. Thanksgiving is my absolute most favorite holiday!! I can’t wait for it every year, but it is the first one I am missing…. 🙁
We already had Thanksgiving here in Canada, but Darling Husband and I intentionally spent it just the two of us. No offense to our families, but it was so nice not having to listen to people squabbling with each other over stupid little things. Plus Darling Husband and I don’t have the same days off, so we grab any chance we can to have a whole day to ourselves.
Darling Husband roasted a chicken and did stuffing and gravy, I cooked up all our favorite vegetable dishes including garlic mashed potatoes, and we served it all up on our wedding china and ate by candlelight. It was really romantic and nice.
Fiance and I spent last Thanksgiving alone, and we might do it again this year. I have a hard time with my family; lots of past issues that are just depressing and hard to deal with, so I didn’t want to go there. His mom was having a dinner with a bunch of completely random people- And I do mean RANDOM. It seriously sounded like we would be eating Thanksgiving dinner in a soup kitchen… haha. So we just stayed at home and made pizzas from scratch and relaxed all day. It was fabulous.
Maybe mention to your parents that you really would like them to come visit you, if not for a holiday, then just to visit sometime. I wouldn’t make too big a deal out of it, but just let them know that you would like their company sometime. Don’t worry about spending the day with just the two of you- it can be really nice and much less stressful!
We are in a way. Darling Husband is in school and I’m going to him since he’s not allowed to travel outside a certain radius away from the base and we’re renting a cabin with a kitchen.
We’re going to probably invite some of his Sailor buddies who can’t go home to their families and make a huge dinner together. I kind of feel like a big sister to them and am excited that even though we’re away from family, we can spend it with our Navy family. 🙂
We are, but by chocie. We spend so much time running around for the holidays with bothe parents being divorced that I pulled the plug on Thanksgiving this year. They are all welcome to visit us, but my oldest daughter and I have already planned our menu and will be baking while watch the parade. Take this year to come up with a tradition with Darling Husband and enjoy the day together.
We will be semi-alone. Thanksgiving is my favorite holiday, and ideally I’d like to always spend it with my family. This year we decided on Thanksgiving with my family, Christmas with his.
Then Fiance got slapped with grand jury duty starting the day before Thanksgiving. And the courts are open the day after. Seriously? I understand civic duty and everything, but it’s just un-American for the government to ruin Thanksgiving plans.
We will be staying here in NYC instead, which I’m honestly okay with. I like the idea of having the whole weekend just the two of us, and we will have even more time to get the tree and decorate. Its also worked out well that his cousin and cousin’s gf are staying in the city, too. So now the plan is to go over to his cousin’s (and his aunt and uncle are also coming too).
In sum: We won’t be spending it with either of our immediate families, but will have at least some family for the day.
We will be celebrating apart, since his family is not getting together except for 3 of them, and they guilted him into going with them. I am always going to go to my family’s for Thanksgiving because it is the only holiday my parents host at their house (so I feel obligated to go, since mom works really hard). I’m not happy about it, but at least I can do Black Friday shopping and get his gifts without worrying about hiding them from him.
I love Holidays with just the two of us! We celebrate in our own way…although sometimes I wish I could rewind and it be like when I was a kid. Holidays is the hardest part of growing up!
Oh gosh. Darling Husband is military so I will literally be spending Thanksgiving alone this year, unless I find another wife who would like to share it with me. I think you should think about it as spending it together…. and be thankful for what ya got! =]
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