Post # 1
I am a waiting bee diagnosed with anorexia nervosa at age 12 and met the criteria until age 18, when I entered recovery. I am now 23 and the tables have turned, and I have crossed to the other side of the spectrum, being bulimic for the past 4 years. I am currently in therapy and have a treatment team for recovery from BN.
There are SO many posts on here about weightloss and people asking everyones weights, and for me, it is very triggering. I can’t help but compare myself to others statistics that they post. I was just wondering if any other ED brides feel the same way.
It also doesn’t help that I am trying to lose a little bit of weight, and its hard enough to try and do this healthily, and then I’m seeing other brides complaining about/comparing their weights, and it just makes it that much harder.
I know, I know… just don’t open those posts! But its kind of hard to avoid when they are always in the ‘recently posted’ spot.
I guess I’m just looking for any support from any other ED/recovery brides about how you handle the pressure to be thin for your wedding day.
Sorry this is so random.
Post # 3
No one? I thought there’d be at least one ED/recovering bride out there to relate with. I’m not trying to talk anything triggering, just wedding support!
Post # 4
I’m really hesitant to talk about my ED, but I was diagnosed with anorexia nervosa when I was 12 (my pediatrician referred me to a psychiatrist) and I’ve been up and down since. I’ll be 27 next month. B/P used to be a problem for a while in my late teens and early 20s but once my psychiatrist tried topiramate to curb my impulsivity and it helps binging, that hasn’t been an issue.
I was in the process of recovering from my worst relapse I’ve had when we were getting married. I was still really thin for our wedding. : I look at pictures and get disappointed at myself. I had pressure to put on weight.
Now that I’m married and I’ve put on a little weight finally, I’m having a hard time feeling like I’ve “let myself go” since getting married and getting depressed over that.
I hear ya on the triggering weight loss posts. I mean I know they aren’t intentionally but yeah.
Post # 5
Oh, I don’t want to make you feel pressured or uncomfortable! I know its SO hard, but I am really proud of you for working towards recovery. I completely understand the whole “letting myself go” thing, but I can assure you that it is all going to be worth it in the end!
Post # 6
@LeonardLady: Oh, no not pressured feeling, just really shy about it! Part of the whole perfectionist in me, I think. I sometimes suspect it extends to even admitting I have an eating disorder to anyone because then I would have a flaw. :
Thank you! I’m proud of you as well for being in therapy and working with a treatment team to work toward recovery as well, it’s a hard step to finally make but so worth it! It will be worth it in the end, I really appreciate you reminding me of that since I tend to lose sight of that. I think of right now, not long term or my health. I should write that on the bathroom mirrors and the mirror in the bedroom. I don’t know about you, but I need to be reminded of that a lot.
What are some ways you’ve found to lose a little weight in a healthy way that haven’t set your ED off? I would like to drop a little of the weight I gained post-wedding, that comfort weight lol, but I never really learned how to lose weight in a healthy manner and each time I’ve had periods of recovery and then wanted to lose weight, I’d just go back to what I knew to lose weight which was extremes and then end it in a full-blown relapse. It would be nice in a way to have a buddy with an ED who is also trying to lose some weight to help keep in check with and be able to talk with that understands or can relate to the issues of an ED and losing weight healthily. I don’t know if you’d be interested?