Post # 1
So my fiance and I have already been living together for like 2 years and have a fair amount of dishes, kitchens appliances, bedding, towels etc. We still added some nice ones to the registry but a lot of the things we would really like for our home are not the types of things I see people typically registering for. For example my fiance would like some video games, x-box point cards and a new coffee table. We would also like some other various small pieces of furniture and maybe a small TV for the office and a new camera.
It just doesn’t seem to me like that is the kind of stuff people usually register for even though that is what we would actually like. My Future Mother-In-Law got mad at my fiance when she saw those gifts in our registry. She is very very traditional and thinks you should only register for dishes, towels etc. She said it was tacky and that they should be removed. I am used to her having a strong opinion about everything but in my opinion it is our registry, not hers. Still we don’t want to potentially offend people? Anyway, I’m curious if you all think it is ok to put non-traditional items in your registry or should we remove them?
Post # 3
IMO, I think a registry is for things that you would use to build your life together. Good: Toaster, coffee table, towels. Bad: Perfume, clothes, shoes. I get what you’re saying though, DH and I had a lot of what we needed because we’ve lived together for so long before getting married. We used our registry as an opportunity to upgrade what we had to nicer (ie not dollar store) stuff. I know some people put bigger ticket items on their registry not because they expect anyone to buy it for them, but so that they can buy it themselves with the completion discount after, so maybe keep that in mind. Both places we registered at also allowed us to add items after our wedding and the completion program is in place for a year after our wedding date.
Post # 4
A lot also depends on the budget of your gusest and what is typically spent in your cohort of family and friends.
Sometimes if there are larger and more expensive items, people will go together to purchase something or one individual or couple will get a gift card that you can put towards that purchase.
Good:a new coffee table, various small pieces of furniture and maybe a small TV for the office and a new camera.
Not so good:video games, x-box point cards-these are not really wedding gifts.
Post # 5
My fiance might not be so happy to hear the video game stuff is not as good choices, but I guess if we get a gift card to somewhere that sells that kind of thing he can buy it then? 😛
Post # 6
Why don’t you register someplace like Target, where you can get all these things. And you could theoretically return things or use gift cards and get the electronics you really want.
Post # 7
Among the things that we registered for, we did register for wii motes and games. I think it depends on the ages of the people that are going. We are 25 so it seemed normal to have those things. I regret registering at macys because in addition to all the gifts from our registry we got tons of giftcards to there and have nothing we want from there.
Post # 8
FYI: there are websites where you can exchange gift cards for a store that you do like, or get cash for your gift cards (at a discounted rate of course).
Post # 9
We registered for some fun stuff like a Wii and a TV and a Blue Ray. We figure, we can hope for it! Even if we most likely wont get it. I don’t see anything wrong with registerring for fun stuff. Especially when you have already been living together. We have pretty much everything we need so at this point everything is an add on. Why not get FUN add ons? Atleast they are more likely to be used!
Post # 10
I was at Macy’s the other day and I had my first selfish wedding gift thought….if I get macy’s giftcards I could go clothes shopping! I quickly reminded myself that its our wedding…. haha.
Post # 11
A good reason to register for stuff that you don’t think you’ll get as gifts – some stores offer you 10% off things you didn’t get on your registry.
That’s a good response to someone who says that you shouldn’t have registered for it.
Or just say, “Well, we wanted to give people lots of options. We don’t expect to get everything on our registry. We’re using at a shopping list to remind ourselves of things we could use when we are getting things after the wedding.”
We put fun things on our registry too. I enjoy getting couples their “fun items”. Sure my aunts and uncles got us traditional stuff, but that’s the point of a registry – people choose what to give you.
IMO, the only things its bad etiquette to register for is stuff that is obviously only for one person.
Post # 12
We registered for a Wii & poker chips; most of my married friends have all registered for stuff like this too or board games. I don’t see anything wrong w/ these at all, they are entertainment home gifts 🙂
Post # 13
Having bought off many, many registries over the years, I’d say, yeah, people are going to look twice (and possibly be offended, or make comments about you!) if you have personal items on your list. Think of it this way — it’s not your birthday, this is to build a life together. Now, if you end up with gift cards or cash, I’m not going to ask what you spent it on 🙂
Post # 14
I think if the video games are things that you can play together, then they would be fine on the registry. Coffee table is definitely okay, and I would have no problem with a camera or a TV on a registry. Heck, we’re registering for a sectional (his family are really excited about buying the pieces for us).
Yeah, you’ll get comments, and some people will judge you, but at some point during wedding planning, you’ve just gotta figure out where you draw the line between “give in for the sake of peace” and “do what you want, let the criticism roll off your back”.
Post # 15
My feeling (and the way I explained this to my FI) is that the registry is for things you need to start your lives as a couple (or upgrades of those things) as mentioned above. You pick those kinds of things out for your registry, things it’s not fun to buy but that you need. And then use the money that you saved to buy the fun things (like the x-box/wii stuff).
That being said, we did register for the box set of Freaks & Geeks. And it was snapped up almost immediately by a friend.
Post # 16
I wanted to register at nordstroms…but Fiance nixed it. 🙁 LOL!