(Closed) Are there issues with NOT changing your name?

posted 7 years ago in Names
Post # 3
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1798 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Having the same name makes no difference in banking or legal situations. As long as you have a legal marriage, you are legally considered married regardless of the name issue. Darling Husband and I have multiple joint accounts and I never changed my last name.

Post # 4
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6394 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

I haven’t changed mine yet, and that’s kind of silly of your FI! We went ahead and put my name on DH’s bank account, and there was absolutely no problem. Even if you take his name, you still have a first and a last name that have to go on every legal document, regardless of it’s the same as his or not. 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I don’t think it will cause issues. My parents don’t have the same last name and they share a bank account. 

I’ll be keeping my name and he’ll be keeping his. Our kids will take my name. 

Post # 6
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1297 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

@soyjoy222:  There won’t be any issues that I could think of, other than people assuming you are Mrs.His last name =) 

My Aunt kept her maiden name after she got married and she has no problem, and her and my uncle have multiple businesses, and residences..under both of their names.

As far as bank accounts go, I see no problem with having different names, not sure what kind of problem your Fiance is referring to.  My Darling Husband & I, when we were not married had joint accounts with both of our different last names..never had any issues at all.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

No issues with combining bank accounts. When I got engaged I merged bank accounts and have had NO problems.

I think regardless of whether you change your name or not officially, you will always be Mrs. HisLastName socially? Correct me bees if I’m wrong?

I haven’t changed my name yet due to laziness and because I travel so much for work. I can just see myself getting to a hotel or airport and everything not matching up perfectly.

Post # 8
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140 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

My parents have different last names. We all have different last names as children and we have never had any problems. Sometimes there has been awkward social situations but not any legal problems. Your Fiance is overreacting.

Post # 9
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1205 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I am also keeping my name and Fiance is keeping his; his parents each kept their own names and have had no complications (they’ve been married 30 years).

We also intend to share finances, mortgage, etc. and it should not be a problem.  We’ll cross the “what are the kids’ last name?” bridge when we come to it!

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Not to threadjack, but how do you prove you’re married/related if your husband or kids are in the hospital and you have a different last name?

Post # 11
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4824 posts
Honey bee

Your fiance is probably just dissapointed and upset that you dont want his name and trying to come up with a “logical” reason why you should change your name so  he doesnt have to say “but I want you to!”

Post # 13
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3375 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I thought the kid always takes the dad’s last name?

Post # 14
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Honey bee

@PinkMagnolia: I have some friends who had kids out of wedlock and they all have the fathers name. So I thought the same thing. Unless maybe she is referring to when the father is not present or unidentified?

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@PinkMagnolia: Well, its not law. I think its certainly the norm, but it doesnt have to be that way. For example, I have friends that just–*just*–had an adorable baby girl. So beautiful, mom and dad are so happy. They’re engaged and plan on getting married next year. The baby has her mom’s last name. Certainly uncommon, but doable.

 

Hospitals don’t decide what your baby’s name is, the parents do. Most single moms dont want their kid to have the dad’s name, but if they’re in a relationship and want the child to have the father’s surname, they can certainly dictate that.

Post # 16
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Buzzing Beekeeper

The only problem I’ve ever encountered was picking up mail at the post office. If packages came in for my husband while I was running errands, I wasn’t allowed to pick them up, even after showing them DD’s insurance card with the same last name on it Undecided

Other than that I’ve never run into any problems with banking or documentation. Even when filling out DD’s social security paperwork they told me I could go by my maiden or married name if I preferred, even though I had never changed my name through them. Nor has it ever been a problem at the hospital. I signed discharge papers for my husband with my maiden name and no one ever mentioned it.

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