Are there more couples NOT getting a traditional wedding cake?

posted 2 years ago in Reception
Post # 31
2454 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

I’ve never been to a wedding that didn’t have cake or cupcakes. (Which, by the way, I consider cupcakes to be the same as cake, just a little more portable.)

Post # 32
1 posts

We’re most likely doing a dessert table. Since both of us are from different countries, we thought it would be a good way to include food from each. Or at least that’s what I’m telling myself because in reality I just want an excuse to eat a lot of pavlova. We’re probably going to do a few pavlovas, tartes aux fruits, and then a few other tropical options. 


I really like the covering for the table pictured above. I was trying to figure out how to keep bugs out of the stuff!

Post # 33
25 posts
  • Wedding: September 2018

Our caterer is providing a small ceremonial cake for $100 and we’re having a dessert table.

Post # 34
42 posts
  • Wedding: August 2017

I decided to make my own cupcakes! I ended up making 16 dozen (192) cupcakes and froze them 2-3 days before my wedding. I took them out the day of and with the help of my SIL and soon-to-be SIL got them all frosted and decorated before the ceremony at 5pm. I had 4 different flavors. Everything went smoothly and worked out great!

I probably ended up spending around $50 for everything and we bought an 8″ round cake to cut from Whole Foods for $30ish, so maybe $80 total. We were quoted $415 from a local cupcake bakery for 5 dozen (60) cupcakes + 5 single cupcakes and a two tier 6″/8″ round cake (not everyone would even get a cupcake! Some would have to have a piece of the cut up cake!)

We had around 100 people at our wedding and had about 50 cupcakes left over. IMG_4205

Post # 35
216 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2017 - Sauk Valley Resort

We’re getting a small cake to cut (I believe a 6 inch), and we’re doing cupcakes so we can have all kinds of different flavors and it’s cheaper. We’re also doing cider and donuts from our favorite cider mill (we love it so much, we moved right down the street from it), a candy bar, and possibly s’mores since we’re planning on a bonfire if the weather cooperates.

Post # 36
120 posts
Blushing bee

I’m planning on a small cake to cut and some cupcakes, but in addition I will also have other desserts. Pie, brownies, cookies, squares etc. so that there’s something for everyone.

I would rather give my guests (and have, if I were a guest) more variety. Plus if I’m going to cart home leftovers and freeze them, it’d be way better to have a selection of things instead of 10 lbs of the same cake. 

Post # 37
141 posts
Blushing bee

My niece had cheesecake at her wedding, since that was her favorite dessert. Very enjoyable!

One wedding I attended, where they served cupcakes, the cupcakes were dried out some. Something to avoid.

Post # 38
606 posts
Busy bee

We’re doing a one tier 8″ cake on a cake stand for cutting, and then sheet cake that will be identical flavors in the back.  We were debating putting out cupcakes as favors/alternative dessert, but it was going to cost more than what we are paying for the one tier and the sheet cake. My fiance thinks we should just serve the cake for dessert and call it a day.  Although, as we get closer to the day, I haven’t ruled out putting out trays of cookies and pastries from an italian bakery depending on where we are with our budget.

Post # 39
7138 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m a wedding photographer, I generally attend about 30+ weddings per year. I’d say these days it’s split about 60/40….wedding cake vs something else. These days it’s a lot of donuts or just overall dessert stations. I really prefer that because I’m not a huge fan of cake. I actually love cake, but I’m one of those weird people that isn’t a huge fan of icing. I don’t mind a little, but usually cakes are completely covered in thick icing.

Post # 40
460 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

heavenlyflower :  Oh god, I used to work there and that picture gave me stress flashbacks!

To answer the OP, I’ve been to one wedding that just had a dessert table and one that had a “cake” of cupcakes. Also some weddings that had a dessert table and a wedding cake. FH and I are considering a cheesecake to cut and then slices and other dessert options for guests. 

Post # 41
97 posts
Worker bee

Second time around here, with four kids between us. We invited all four (now young adults) to pick their favorite cake and we picked ours too. The youngest wanted the cake with the $ signs, and we didn’t argue, lol. It was a fun way to include everyone. photo credit Julia Smith

Post # 42
7898 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

For our small wedding, we had two separate cakes. One was a cheesecake and chocolate cake. The other was a white cake. It was definitely cheaper than getting a traditional wedding tiered cake, and they were SO delicious!

Post # 43
2336 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

I think all the weddings I’ve been to have had at least a small cake for cutting by the bride and groom. Darling Husband and I eloped. We brought home a slice of cake each from the restaurant that we went to after we got married. Neither one of us is really into wedding cake. The B&B where we got married had “wedding cake” as an optional add on, but we didn’t get it. 

Post # 44
240 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2019

heavenlyflower :  lol. My friend has offered to be my official cupcake getter so that doesn’t happen to me. 😂 

We are planning on having cupcakes and chocolate chip cookies. And im also now thinking on doing a full dessert buffet. No cake at all for us, i think the cake cutting is silly, so we are just skipping it.  

Post # 45
44 posts
  • Wedding: July 2016

Caterer provided 250 bite-sized desserts, and the 9″ cake was from a local bakery.  All were arranged on a multi-level glass thingy.  Was perfect.


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