(Closed) Are there ways you don't want to be proposed to?

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

I want it to be just us.. then maybe a preplanned party later with our family and friends 🙂

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I think along the same lines as you… those flash mob proposals seem a little overwhelming to me…. but at this point I woud take any method so long as it ends with a ring 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2019

I’d prefer nothing around a ton of strangers, really. If someone else is going to experience ‘our’ moment I’d rather it be just us or around people we know.

I think that’s really my only condition, that and he should hurry up and do it already. ;P

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I did not want a public proposal. It was perfect for us: just he and I and our dog, alone on a walk at sunset.

(sorry to crash the waiting board, but I felt pretty strongly about that when it was me)

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I did not want to be proposed to “in public.” Luckily Fiance is a fellow introvert and while he did propose outdoors, there was no one around. He also knew in advance that I’d prefer something not-embarrassing.

Other friends of mine have had really super public and dramatic proposals and they loved them. It’s just a matter of knowing your SO’s preferences and comfort level with that sort of thing.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

No flash mobs, no Christmas, Valentine’s Day, anniversary or birthday. I want it to be its own special day and just us. We could go to a little get together afterwards 🙂

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

One of Mr Rugbee’s friends proposed to his wife in response to one of her “When are we going to get married” questions… he just answered “Lets do it, then” and they were engaged. No ring, no build up, nothing. I would not have wanted that. 

 

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Ooh, I would have loved a Christmas proposal (not that I didn’t love the one I got!)

But I really, really love Christmas. And it would have worked since the first time he [finally] told me he loved me was over Christmas break one year. Best Christmas gift I ever got.

Post # 11
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Helper bee

after 5 years i dont care if he wakes me up out of a deep sleep to pop the question, just ask. lol.

no but um id probably say no to public proposals, dont need cheerleader observers. 

Post # 12
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Busy bee

anywhere, anytime but xmas eve because that’s when my xDH proposed to me.

SO said a few months ago he had a few ideas on how he’d do it. We discussed it a few nights ago and he denied having a plan.  i think he’s throwing me off or something. He’s starting to irritate me LOL

Post # 13
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Helper bee

I will admit, this one proposal (I love the “dancing juice [Jews]”), not sure I would call it a “flashmob” proposal, since I’m pretty sure the people were all their friends, really sticks out as my favorite. 

I don’t think I’d want anything particularly unromantic, or simple.  Like, if I was just handed a ring, or something, and he said, “Want to get married?”  I’d probably hand the ring back and tell him to put more effort into it.  Luckily, when he went to high school, the guys went out of their ways to outdo each other when asking their girls to prom.  So, I show him various proposals, and tell him that he has his work cut out for him.  He’s up for the challenge, though!  And he fully expects me to say “no,” if I don’t approve.  I doubt I will, though, because I’m sure he’ll come up with something awesome.

I’m also partial to geek-related proposals, such as those that take into account one’s interests (such as Super Mario Bros., or comic books, or the recently announced Harry Potter proposal that a fellow bee got!).

As far as number of people, that’s fine, too.  I’m introverted, but not to the point that I would hate being proposed to in front of a bunch of people.  Well, unless I didn’t want to get married, I don’t think anyone wants to be in front of a bunch of people if that happens, but I’m unlikely to say, “no,” or “I’m not ready,” or something like that.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

@Chaoslight:  I don’t even like Harry Potter and I LOVED that proposal!

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

I don’t want all eyes on me. I’m fine with a public proposal (like, he could do it when we first see each other at the airport after I land), but not something where it draws attention to me on purpose – like the jumbo tron at a sporting event or a flash mob.

I think he may do it in front of his family, and it makes me a little nervous to think of them watching, but as it would only be a couple people, I’ll live!

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

@Chaoslight:  The dancing “Jews” proposal is my absolute favorite to watch ever. It makes me cry everytime. That would totally be okay because it isn’t public, and well, it’s just so dang fun!

And geek proposals FTW too. Love it.

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