Are these guest dresses appropriate?

posted 2 years ago in Guests
Post # 18
327 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

Congrats on the weight loss, but don’t wear any of these dresses, I think you can find one that doesn’t show as much skin (I wouldn’t do anything midriff baring), and is more classy/elegant for a wedding. Just because your cousin won’t care doesn’t mean the rest of your family won’t either. Better be play it more conservative.

Post # 19
38 posts
  • Wedding: September 2017

Congrats on losing the weight!

Post # 20
2878 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

operaglove :  Sorry but I don’t find any of these even remotely appropriate for a wedding, black tie or not. You’re 24, not 16. These look pretty similar to almost every girls dress at my nieces prom this year. I would go for something much more elegant and “grown up.” 

If you are dead set on separates, I would find one that doesn’t show your whole stomach. BHLDN has a lot of skirt/tops that are much more appropriate so long as you don’t choose something super bridal. 

Post # 21
900 posts
Busy bee

operaglove :  Two pieces can be ok, just NO stomach showing at a black tie event.  Tucking a white tank into the blue skirt would probably be way too casual unless it’s silk. 

Post # 22
32 posts
  • Wedding: August 2017

I understand why you’d want to wear a crop top after losing 30 lbs, but someone else’s wedding is not an appropriate forum to show off your new body. You don’t want to steal the spotlight from the bride or draw too much attention to yourself and all of these outfits would do that. Even if the bride says she doesn’t care, you can guarantee people at the wedding will be judging you/point out how inappropriate your outfit is. My advice is to keep your tummy covered for the wedding; if you want a two-piece, make sure it does not show more than an inch of stomach; these all show way too much. Congrats on your weight loss. I think you will look great even without a crop top!

Post # 23
1496 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

I dunno. I kind of like the third one. The color is subdued, it is long and with sleeves and a higher neck, and middriff is more minimal (maybe not with her arms lifted). But seriously – don’t pick something that shows your middriff AND is low cut (#2) AND sparkly (2) AND white (1) AND has a slit (#1 & #2). Honestly, never white.

But I do think if the wedding is fancier, independent of how you perceive what your cousin is or isn’t chill about, it sounds like her fiance wants a nice fancy wedding. You should respect that!

Post # 24
539 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

If you are looking at long gowns, 2 piece or not, really make sure that it is black tie.  Black tie is an extremely formal event with top tier liquor, a multi course meal, passed hors d’eorves, valet service, ceremony that begins after 5 PM.  I would double check that this is truly a black tie event that requires a formal long gown.  

Post # 25
4035 posts
Honey bee

Unless the bride is planning to wear something like this, I’d say no to all three choices.

Post # 26
2081 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

I really think these are a bit too risque for a wedding. You definitely need more coverage.

Post # 28
627 posts
Busy bee


operaglove :  please resist the urge to show off your body at a family wedding. The 1st one is way too much white for a bride. The midriff revealing style is not a good look for this occasion. Believe me, your 30 pound weight loss will show in a sensible dress. You don’t want your questionable fashion sense to upstage your weight loss, and with that style it would. 

Post # 29
326 posts
Helper bee

Oh honey, no. None of those. I agree with the other bees–no midriff baring, ESPECIALLY for a black tie affair.

Post # 30
906 posts
Busy bee

They look like trashy prom dresses:/ first two especially. I kinda like 3 but it’d way too much midriff showing for a wedding. So nope to all three. 

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