Are these guest dresses appropriate?

posted 2 years ago in Guests
Post # 31
47199 posts
Honey Beekeeper
Post # 32
713 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

2XMOB :  oh good lord surprised

Post # 33
671 posts
Busy bee

There are lots of beautiful, elegant two piece dresses in the world. Your current options are neither. Get something where the attention is on your awesome hard work, not your questionable taste. 

Post # 34
2681 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

operaglove :  1 and 2 are definite NOs from me. They are very pageanty and to be brutally honest they look cheap. 3 is the most appropriate of the choices you posted, but I personally wouldn’t wear it. 

Post # 35
2539 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

nope nope nope

Post # 36
2185 posts
Buzzing bee

operaglove :  I’d definitely recommend looking for a formal skirt and then getting a nice silk top to pair with it, if you’re set on a skirt vs a dress.

I’m also always skeptical of black-tie claims. I’ve been to a few weddings where they slapped black-tie on the invitation but 90% + of the guests were in cocktail dresses. I’ve found, particularly with young couples, that they say “black tie” in hope that their guests won’t come in jeans. I’d use the invitation/venue/time, etc. as a guide to what to wear moreso than a stated dress code.

Post # 37
539 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Also, want to add that there are definitely dresses that can highlight weight loss without being crop.  Here’s a pic of me in a formal gown after I lost 30 pounds. Look for something that highlights the areas that you want to “show off” without being brazen about it.  I liked my new small waist and my arms so I picked something that showed off my shoulders and cinched in my waist.

Post # 38
2053 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Maybeeeee #3.  No way in heck to number 1 or 2!

Post # 39
6535 posts
Bee Keeper

operaglove :  Congratulations on your weight loss!

A bare midriff is not appropriate for most weddings and is definitely not appropriate for a black tie wedding, no matter your age. Keep looking. 

Post # 40
828 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

Adding to the chorus that says none of these dresses are appropriate to wear to a wedding. To answer your question, the slits on the first two skirts are WAY too high for a family wedding. Be very cautious with two pieces, as they wind up being midriff baring, which is entirely inappropriate for a black tie family wedding. Wearing a tank top would make it much too informal. 

If you have dresses already that you’re resenting not being able to wear again, why not get one of them altered down to your new size? It’ll look like a whole new dress after 30 lbs. 

Post # 41
345 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2016 - Presidio Log Cabin

If you’re dead set on a 2-piece dress, look for one that has literally 1″ of stomach (or less) showing and is fairly conservative everywhere else. That is literally the only way I could envision this being a good idea and not having SOMEONE at the wedding be offended.


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Post # 42
587 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

Why don’t you just do a regular skirt/top combo instead of a crop top/maxi? Also, please don’t wear white. It’s the one time in life you really just shouldn’t, even if it’s minimal

Post # 43
2342 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

Is this a joke? like actually? 

Post # 44
473 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

I’d be throwing super side eye your way if you showed up to a wedding I was a guest at. If it was my wedding, I’d be super frustrated about your need for attention on my day. 

Post # 45
3027 posts
Sugar bee

operaglove :  I think it’s understandable to be tempted, when a lot of weight has been lost, to want to show skin/wear tight clothes. It just happens that this wedding is not the best context to do so. I suggest going with a more classy and elegant look, taking into consideration your wish to wear separates: a somewhat form fitting top with a skirt formal enough for the event, paired with intricate earrings and colorful shoes:

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