Post # 46
I think the first and third dress would look better on someone with curves – the model looks a little stickish and the dress just hangs on her. The strapless sample doesnt look awesome, but it’s my least favorite of the three & I’m just not a fan of yellow, so that could be part of why I dont love the sample pic.)
They really are all pretty cute dresses, and you are giving her options to pick from and the cost is covered…I think you’ve done all you should to accommodate her and just let her pick one. Kind of dumb that she held a facebook survey, but maybe it will help her to decide, so I’d just let that go:) Have you checked if any other stores in the area (within an hour or two) have samples of the other dresses?
Post # 47
Personally, I don’t think any of those dresses would look good on me. However, I’d definitely suck it up for a friend’s wedding, and that’s even if it wasn’t being paid for by someone else! Then again, if I was a bit more self conscious about my appearance then I could see having a problem with it. They’re not terribly forgiving.
Post # 48
I love the dresses! And second @Ms Moxie, love Spanx!
Post # 49
Dresses always look cute on models for some reason. But I actually find that cut/style hard to pull off without the one body type it was made for. I’m 5’4, sz 2, and have tried buy dresses like that and never found them to look good on me. I honestly dont think its flattering, but at the same time, its not awful. Is there a style like that in a better fabric for her that flows away from the body? or has a better defined waistline?
Post # 50
Spanx and alterations may or may not ‘fix’ this dress, but please, for the sake of your friendship, be careful how you tell your bridesmaid she just needs to wear some shapewear and she’ll be fine! I would be devastated if someone told me that.
Post # 51
@MindyLou … are you COMPLETELY set on these dresses? If not, I think you should reconsider.
I’m going to be a bridesmaid next year and as someone who is very busty (38 DD) and “curvy” (I stand at 5’5″ and 140 lbs) I personally would NOT be comfortable in ANY of those dresses. I would go for something with a short sleeve, a full skirt and a faux wrap to accommodate all of your girls’ various figures.
(To be honest) the strapless dress you chose is not flattering and I really doubt the spaghetti strap one would be much better. Like some other posters mentioned, it would be difficult for her to find a supportive bra for the first two dresses. Remember, you DEFINITELY want the attention to be on YOU and not your bridesmaids’ cleavage or other “assets”. I would definitely go with the third one, but I think choosing a dress that has more coverage overall would be better look and less stressful in the long run.
J. Crew Silk Tricotine Cecelia Dress (comes in sizes 0-16 and some of the colors are similar to the original dress you chose and are ON SALE! Woo hoo!)
Maggie London Stretch Satin Sheath Dress (wrong color, but a GREAT example of the cut and fabric you need to look for. I don’t know what your other color schemes are, but something deep and inky like this would be STUNNING against your dress.) **sorry the photo is so large**
Pretty maids dress 22342 (comes in a TON of colors (including several close to your original pick), ranges from size 0-18, is only $79 and is universally flattering).
Just my $.02 from the bridesmaid’s perspective 🙂
Post # 52
@daydreamwanderer- I would NEVER tell her to wear them. She called and said, “I’m getting some SPANX.”I said, “Okay.”
@happybridesmaid- Thanks for your options, they’re lovely. I’d say though that I’m pretty set on these. Let me try to explain why. I guess I just REALLY LIKE THEM. 🙂 It’s hard to explain. I think the wrapping on the bodice and the overlayer being a hair darker is just beautiful. I also think they’re a nice echo of my dress-wrapping and flowy.
1. Perfect color. This dusty rosy pink is 100% what I want. Not lavender, not sweet 16 pink, not magenta, dusty rosy pink.
2. Flowy. The wedding is in FL. Indoor ceremony and coctail hour, outdoor reception. Relaxed but classy atmosphere.
3. Shouldn’t show sweat. I fear silk would be a DISASTER in June in FL.
5. Not shiny.
6. Not super polite: but said Bridesmaid or Best Man made me wear a strapless satin mermaid gown in FL in August and then yelled at me when my Fiance stepped on it. I never said a word about how it made me feel fat and pale. My other three BMs are thrilled about the dress and adore the choices, so I feel silly totally redoing my choice for someone who would not have done the same for me.
For funsies, let me show you the other dress this Bridesmaid or Best Man liked. I really think it’s less flattering up top than the Jenny Yoo. I’ll see if this comes with a sleeve right now. This also comes in the pretty dusty pink color. I went against it because it’s a lot shorter. My other girl is 5’10” and this would be soooo leggy on her.
Post # 53
She needs to suck it up! I’m glad, based on your update, that she has.
Post # 54
Well, the dress your bridesmaid likes is more flattering on her than the other one, although I personally don’t like the push-up effect. It really doesn’t matter what she asked you to wear – it’s whether you want to take the high road and also have her look good in your wedding. Unflattering outfits make for unflattering photos, which will be yours (not hers) for the rest of your life.
Post # 55
I’ll be your bridesmaid if I can get one of those dresses!
They’re really pretty.
Can’t she order one with straps if the salon is out?