- 5 months ago
So I’m sort of seeing a guy and I’m trying to stay smart about it. He’s very kind; opens doors for me, asks me how I am like every day, feeds me, etc.
He broke up with his ex in October, and shes not over him yet. They’re in the same friend group, so they cant really avoid each other all the time. I dont mind that they interact or if they end up friends. I’m a pretty nonjealous person.
So we made out tipsy the first time, and some of his friends saw (I know, yuck; I was drunk ok haha). Someone ended up telling her, and she asked him if we made out. He denied it and said no. A week ago, someone else told her too, and he had to admit he lied. Then she asked him if we slept together (at this point we have), and he also said no.
When they were dating, they were on and off towards the end. Once, when they broke up for a week, he had a threesome. Which he asked me to not tell her about.
Lol I know it’s none of her business what he does when hes single, but I’m a little worried that he lied. I guess if I were in his shoes, my answer wouldve been something along the lines of “I’m not answering things about my personal life, we’re not together”. Instead of lying.
Also, this is sort of not important because he doesnt owe me exclusivity at this point. He wants something with me, but I want to take my time and told him to not ask me yet. But anyways, he usually texts me every day, every couple of hours. Which I wont lie, I’m not the biggest fan of, but it also is something I’m able to work with. However, yesterday he didnt text me all day. Which I noticed because it was a Saturday and that’s usually when the friend group him and his ex are in go out. Well, I ended up having a girls night, went to a club, and sure enough, they were there. They didnt see me. I’m sure the reason he didnt message me is because he had sex with her or something of that nature. I assume so because his ex told me he doesnt reply to her, since they broke up, whenever hes out with someone else (she talked to me a little before I started seeing him).
I’m not annoyed about whether or not he slept with her; hes single and we havent even decided to be exclusive. I’m just annoyed that he acted shady by not messaging me all day. Sort of makes me think that if I did ask him about it, he’d lie. Which I’d never ask because I dont care, but it’s his trancperancy that I question.
Our mutual friends all have known him since middle school. I guess he has a reputation of being an honorable, kind person. He hasn’t cheated on anyone, or been abusive. It’s still pretty early so I’m trying to assess the situation. Idk if I should stay or go :p