(Closed) Are these similar to you?

posted 7 years ago in Rings
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  • Post # 47
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2015

    That would also annoy the shit outta me. 

    Post # 48
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: February 2009

    They are similar, but it is a brand.  I don’t think you can really be upset about it.  If it was custom, and they made a replica of your one of a kind ring, then I would say what they did was totally wrong.  But i am not sure you can fault some one for getting a Verragio too.  Everyone has the right to a ring they love, and I think all all regular brands or B&M store rings are fair game.  

    You said you used to look at it and feel so loved and special.  I am not sure how others having it takes away that love or special feeling from your fiance.  You can’t stop how you feel, and I get that, but them getting Verragio rings as well does not change that your Fiance bought you what you loved.  

    The only way to have a truly unique ring, imo, is to custom design it and not let people look too closely.

    Post # 49
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

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    @HeartsandSparkles:  Well. It sounds to me like you are incredibly upset that your piece of jewely is no longer “unique” enough for you. Perhaps you should remember, as you said, it’s about your “love and relationship and decision to build our lives together.” Not what it looks like.

    If it bothers you so much, I highly suggest you buy a new ring, because you might never going to get over two people having a ring so similar to yours. Can you custom create a ring? 

    My ring came from a chain store. THOUSANDS of women have the same ring as I have. It’s about my commitment to my husband. Not what it looks like. 

     

    Post # 50
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

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    @HeartsandSparkles:  Even tho I personally wouldn’t care if a family member got a ring similar to mine I totally get why your upset. My ring is from a major chain store but its still different and I don’t think many people wear it as a ering. It’s great to be unique esp. with something so sentimental and that will be apart of your life forever. I think its worse because not only did your aunt buy a very similar ring she flants it in your face with a I’m better then you mentality when she the copycat. I will say I don’t think your cousin could be to blame if she had no ideas or say on how the ring would look. I get the vent and totally roll my eyes at some ppl sttitude towards something you feel strongly about. Just because it’s not a big deal to them doesn’t mean that you have no right feeling the way you do. Your ring is beautiful son’t allow your fam to suck the joy out of this time in your life.

    Post # 52
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    Some people are one-uppers.  :/  Suckssss. 

    Post # 53
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    Busy bee

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    @HeartsandSparkles:  I have talked with no less than 12 different highly recommended jewelers/goldsmiths locally and all over the country since May of last year until finally finding THE one who understands what I want, is communicative, and is able to help turn my vision into something that is going to be beautiful and truly one of a kind. It just takes patience and determination, and money of course.

    We all make choices in how bad we really want something. You or your fiancé obviously weren’t willing to keep looking for the right goldsmith or unable/unwilling to pay more for what you wanted, so you bought “off the rack” with some mods, which is fine.  But, you don’t own the rights to your ring – Verragio does, and they are in biz to make money, of which your aunt and cousin’s fiancé clearly also had.

    You can either keep letting this “betrayal” by your family rain on your engagement parade, or you can put on your big girl panties, and remember what you love about YOUR ring, why YOU chose it, control that which you can, and quit losing sleep over the uncontrollable actions of others. Just remember – holding a grudge is letting your aunt and cousin live rent-free in your head. Sounds like they are getting quite comfy in there.

    Post # 55
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2014

    For what it’s worth, all Verragio’s tend to look the same to me!

     

    Post # 56
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

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    @HeartsandSparkles:  So on the one hand, I get where you’re coming from, you searched high and low for your dream ring, the ring that was perfect for YOU, and while it wasn’t totally custom, it’s not like it was something classic or trendy that someone in your area paying attention to rings  would see on a regular basis. My ring isn’t custom, but it’s an uncommon design and I’d be a bit disappointed if it became popular. And seriously weirded out if my aunt & cousin got very similar rings.

    But on the other hand, I think you need to embrace your perfect ring, and train yourself not to think of anyone but you and your Fiance when you look at it! The amount of sparkle, the thin, classic top-view, the six prongs, the detailed side view, and the Parisian influence are all so perfectly YOU. It’s sad that two of your family members decided to emulate you instead of embracing their own identities. But you need to let go of the malice. Try not to worry too much about the wedding band; personally I’m getting a not-at-all unique, dainty eternity band, and it’s wonderful because it’s really just a sparkly reminder that I found the man of my dreams, and he wants to spend the rest of his life with me. Bitches be cray, but your rings are about YOU, and like a PP said, imitation is the sincerest form of flattery. 

    Post # 57
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    Busy bee

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    @HeartsandSparkles:  “And my cousin’s fiance had to finance the whole ring- it is not in the price range he could afford at all. Whereas my fiance saved and paid for my ring in cash. I just don’t think you should buy a ring you can’t afford, though I realize some people may disagree.”

    He can afford the payments, and that’s all that matters. I could have paid cash for my new car I just bought in September, but I opted to finance half the purchase price for a number of reasons. I am not a big fan of financing “non-essential” purchases either, but it’s not my business how someone else spends their money, and it’s really not yours either. 

    Seriously, evict the freeloaders from your head.

     

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    @cls9q: Agreed! They all seem to have some common thread of design, though I do confuse them & Tacori a lot. 

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