(Closed) Are they necessary/important?

posted 5 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: do you like sand ceremonies?
    yes : (12 votes)
    12 %
    no : (85 votes)
    88 %
  • Post # 3
    396 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I don’t think it’s imprtant persay, more of a thing that brides like to do. We aren’t doing sand or candles just because it isn’t important to us and we want to keep our ceremony short.

    Post # 4
    7445 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2013

    We did a handfasting instead of the sand or candles because we’ve seen those way too many times, and the handfasting had more meaning to us.

    Post # 5
    6256 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: March 2014

    I put them about on par with a unity candle, handfasting, tree planting or the box/wine/letter thing (which we are doing.)


    They aren’t important in the least as far as the legal or spiritual aspects of the ceremony (unless handfasting is part of your culture), and the only symbolism they have is what you impart on them. But I think that’s kind of the point. Pick something that’s important to you, or you don’t have to do anything at all.


    Post # 6
    93 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    I voted no,because the question is are they necessary or important.  While I don’t think they are either of those things, they can be kind of cool, especially with some colored sand and if your ceremony is on the shorter side.

    Post # 8
    401 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Voted no, but not meaning I didn’t like them, just agreeing that they aren’t necessary – if it’s what you want to do, do it 🙂

    Post # 9
    1815 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall

    I like the symbolism of it, so we are doing a sand ceremony. I found my parents’ unity candle a few months ago in a box – I found it both neat and sad (that it was just shoved away because a burnt candle doesn’t make a pretty mantle piece). I like the sand set because we can display it on a mantle, curio cabinet, china hutch or something like that.

    Post # 11
    7219 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2015

    @swisea01:  I voted no because of the way the question was worded, but if you WANT to do it, go for it. I’ve seen it at a few weddings and it only takes maybe 3 minutes. I don’t think people are going to get “bored”. You could have a short song play and by the time it was over, you’d be done. 

    Post # 12
    396 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @swisea01:  I like that idea better. I saw it on Pinterest too, where you keep adding sand as you take vacations throughout your life? That to me would be more sentimental than the regular sand ceremony. Because it would also be somewhat of a conversation piece in your home where people ask about the different varieties of sand.

    I’ll be honest, the last wedding we went to they did a sand ceremony and I couldn’t tell you anything the pastor said because I was talking to my pew mates. 🙂

    Post # 14
    1161 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I voted no. I don’t find unity ceremony interesting at all. They always seem redundant to me because the real unity ceremony happened when you exchanged vows. Anything beyond that seems cheesy.

    Post # 15
    2118 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014 - Baby #2 due Sep 2017

    Sand ceremony? Too lazy to google..

    Post # 16
    776 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I voted no because I guess I don’t see the point. Now you have some sand in a jar to stick on your mantle… awesome? The tree you get to see grow, the wine you can drink later.. but the sand always seems to not really have a purpose. But if you like it and it means something for you, power to you!

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