(Closed) Wishing I Could Stop This Impending Trainwreck!

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
8446 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

she said “oh, I wouldn’t worry – he sees you as a sister”

 @mrs_pudding_pop:  This is not reassuring.  I’m not sure there is anything you can say or do.  Sorry to hear you’re having to deal with this.

Post # 5
2625 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I would think they were totally overcompensating too. That type of stuff really makes me want to barf. Usually the over doing it, is and indicator of the total opposite. I wouldn’t say anything just as you said, and probably just ignore it.


Post # 6
4523 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@mrs_pudding_pop:  ugggh I *hate* guys that do that shit. Boyfriend or Best Friend has a longtime/childhood friend who grosses me out to no end. Sure, he’s polite…but he’s always looking for a way to touch women. It weirds me out. When we first started dating, *on BFs birthday*, he would NOT stop grabbing on me, and the birthday boy was drunk. I was so furious about it I didn’t hang out if he was around for over a year. 

Shortly thereafter, when I was still bartending, a fellow server came over to me. She said “Hey, remember that fucking creep I told you about? The one I gave the fake number to because he wouldn’t drop it? Well he’s here.” I was like “oh awesome, I GOTTA see this weirdo.”

…guess who it was?

So, my instincts were always dead on he was gropy and gross. Your friends response tells me she is well-aware of him being handsy, and his parroting *his* response: “she’s like a sister to me.”


Post # 9
5956 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

@mrs_pudding_pop:  …never undestimate the power of denial.

Some people want what they want because they want it…NOW.  And for whatever reason beyond our comprehension they’re willing to throw their lot in with some disasterous lech of a man…there’s nothing for it….block their stuff from your feed and if you’re Mrs. Delusional’s go to girl, save yourself some time and trouble, print off the forms for filing for divorce in your county and keep them in an envelope with some good divorce lawyer’s contact info…you’ll be needing it soon.

Post # 10
4523 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@mrs_pudding_pop:  He sounds like a *great* guy. I’d guess your friend is trying to convince herself she’s making a good decision.

Post # 11
3771 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 1999

It sounds like this couple was really young and immature at the time you knew them.

Are you still close with them, if not I would assume that they have grown up and worked things out. I think people are capable of improving their relationship as they grow up and maybe they are just happy now…

Post # 12
5226 posts
Bee Keeper

I just posted on another thread about the ridculous fakeness of FB lives. My bestie does this……she can’t can’t stand her husband, has been wanting to leave him for YEARS. She actually filled out a profile on a cheaters website(against my advice). Her and hubby fight ALL THE TIME. BUT……if you follow her on FB, you’d think it was all rainbows and lollipops and harlequin romance…….so part of why I don’t use it. Just like with my bestie though, some people need to make their own mistakes. I tried talking her out of getting married, and actually refused to be in her wedding cause I knew it was a train wreck in progress. Well……I already told you how that worked out……..

Post # 16
927 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

It’s hard to watch your friends in bad situations like this, but all you can really do is be supportive no matter what shitstorm they drive themselves into. I totally agree, when couples are totally overdoing it w/ pda or lovey FB posts it’s often masking other issues.

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