(Closed) Are tuxedos cruel and unusual punishment?

posted 5 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

Haha, my Fiance didn’t want to wear a “penguin suit,” but it’s impossible to find decent suits to rent! Men’s Wearhouse only has tuxedos and we didn’t want to make the guys buy crappy suits or spend a ton of money. I love the look of a classic tuxedo, but a lot of men don’t like them. 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

After putting my dress on for the first time yesterday I feel less sorry for guys. lol that thing was tight, heavy and I was sweating in 5 minutes.  Yeah it may be uncomfortable but its just for a few hours, that said, Fiance gets to choose his wedding day outfit as long as it isn’t jeans and t-shirt lol.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Aquaria:  I guess if you don’t like them it is. That’s really the only thing that my Fiance requested. He’s a bit of a diva, lol

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

If you were asking a guy to wear a tuxedo every day of his life it would be unreasonable.  My feeling is that for a guy to dress formally for 10-12 hours for one day is not unreasonable.  And as for the discomfort of the layers etc, considering the spanx and long dresses that take military precision to maneuver in the bathroom, I’d say men have it easy compared to women.

Post # 7
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Personally no I don’t think they are, considering how much crap women have to wear just a normal day.  And a man can suck it up and wear one for a day…

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2008

My husband wears suits regularly, so for him it’s not a big deal. My son wears suits regularly, so I’m sure when it comes time for him to get married, he won’t have a problem with it. 

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Aquaria:  I wouldn’t ask anyone to wear a tux at my wedding. Most men in my family already have dress pants and a shirt/tie, or a suit. They can wear what they already own, that is already comfortable.

FH did have to rent a tux for another wedding, and  it did not fit well (thanks, MW). Also I kinda just hate MW so I don’t give them any more business than I have to.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Please. Tuxes are nothing compared to the dresses I tried on. Fiance worked in suits for awhile so he likes to look nice- not sure if he’ll do suits or tuxes. I’m not sure why someone would make men wear tuxes to an outdoor wedding though.

Post # 11
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Most of the groomsmen already owned their own suits, so we just bought them the ties to match.  Our guideslines were

  1. The suits had to be black (no pin strips)
  2. The groomsmen had to wear a white dress shirt underneath (while the groom wears a black dress shirt to stand out)
  3. We provide the ties (Clover green ties we found on the Internet for $10 a piece)

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

We thought they were unnecessary. Our 5 groomsmen are wearing black suits, with matching silver ties. How bad could it look?

Don’t answer that…

Post # 13
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Worker bee

Rental tuxs are terrible usually poly or Polly wool blends not comfortable. A high quality light or tropical weight wool isn’t bad. Tux is just like a suit many different weights and fabrics for different situations and weather just not easy to find or cheap if you want better then mw or such… still not something most would want to wear outsideon a hot summer day hence the idea that they were originally evening wear… still technically are.

Nice of you to let him out of it.

Post # 14
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Busy bee

@sablemuse:  Yup. My SO cant wait to wear his tux. He also thinks we should still be living in Downton Abbey though.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

For my wedding? Absolutely necessary. For anyone else’s? That’s the couple’s call.

Fiance is absolutely thrilled to buy a tuxedo for our wedding! He briefly considered bespoke, but has settled on off the rack then tailored. He rarely wears suits, but loves to dress well. A tailored tuxedo is the most debonair thing he could own, so he’s embracing the opportunity.

A casual, day time wedding doesn’t call for tuxes anyway (they look rather silly in that context), but our evening, mostly-formal affair does. The groomsmen who already own tuxes–at least two of the five–will wear their own, and the others can rent or buy at their discretion. We’re skipping matchy-matchy vests or colored ties, though.

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I gave Darling Husband a choice. He wanted to wear a tux, and he wanted his groomsmen in tuxes.

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