Post # 1
So last night I’m like babe could you not propose on NYE cuz if you do then I’ll know it’s coming since that’s the last day of the year & I want to b surprised. He looks at me with the most sincerity in the world & says oh so you thought the end of the year literally meant the end of the year??? Uhhhh yes jerk face!!!! He goes on to say that, he really just meant that its coming but it prolly won’t be by the end of the year because he doesn’t have enough for what he wants to get for me & he knows that I want something nice so he’d rather wait so he can save up for it…I just went upstairs & went to bed cuz I knew things would not end well if we continued to talk.
Is it just me or does the end of the year mean 12.31.11 &#%$&#@^&$%#$*@!!!!!! (that’s me cursing…lol)
Post # 3
Oh noo!! Men are so vague sometimes!! 🙁
Post # 4
^$^#@*^@%!%%@^%#^#&#&#!!!! still cursing…lmao
Post # 5
OH no! Im sorry you are so frustrated!! MEN… ugh
Post # 6
As much as that sucks, I’d say it’s better to be annoyed now than miserable on NYE.
Once you cool down it may be a good time to have a calm convo about what he meant by “end of the year” and then let him do his thing.
Post # 7
Perhaps he was planning to propose on NYE which you shut down and so he had to scramble with something to say and will have to push it back now.
Post # 8
Well it’s better to have that awkward conversation now than NYE end in a disaster!
Post # 9
Yeah, that would certainly sting. It’s hard to misinterpret “end of the year” no matter how you try to spin it.
That said, now that it’s out in the open it sounds like a good opportunity to review the timeline and ask him to really think about how long it’s going to take him to get to the point (savings-wise or whatever) that he’s ready to propose.
Post # 10
oh no! maybe this could be a blessing in disguise…. he is saving up more $ to get you a nicer ring. i always tell my friends who are waiting “the longer you wait, the bigger the rock!” =)
Post # 11
@gonnabee_Mrs.BMW: Aw hun I’m sorry that he didn’t stick to his original timeline. 🙁
Post # 12
@Moose1209: Yea I tried to be optimistic about it at first like maybe he just wants to…but then I realized who I was dealing with & NO that’s not him…
Like @Baystatebride said, he’s not sticking with his original timeline 🙁
but u guys are right its better that I know now rather than being crushed on NYE. and this ring better be REDONKULOUS!!!!
@thirdtimebride: yea I think I will talk to him & see realistically when he thinks it will be cuz this is crazy…
~Still waiting to bee Mrs. BMW (oh yea I’m getting a bmw with plates that say Mrs. BMW (only reason I’m marrying him…kidding lol))
Post # 13
augh!! how else did he think you were going to interpret “end of the year”!?!? this sucks, but stay strong! hopefully, whatever he deems to be the “end of the year” will be soon after! maybe chinese new year?
Post # 14
LMAO @ chinese new year…lol
Post # 15
I feel so bad for guys sometimes… they really can’t win.
What if he had some romantic plan to propose on New Years or Christmas Eve or something and you just totally shot down his idea?
If you know its in the works, seriously ladies, just resist the urge to dictate how and when he does it!!! Coming from a girl with a lot of guy friends and a fiance, I’m PROMISING you, the more you push, the longer you’re going to wait – and the more you try to arrange the proposal or drop not-so-subtle hints about when and where it should be, the more disappointed you’re going to be.
Not trying to be mean. I KNOW its hard – I’ve been there. But vent to your girlfriends and the bee and just let the poor guy do his thing. You’ll save yourself a lot of stress and hurt feelings. One of my friends just walked away from a 3 year relationship because once he started talking seriously about wanting to marry her, she went PSYCHO about it, and he felt disrespected and pushed. Don’t let yourself be that girl.
Post # 16
I was in this position last year. We’d agreed the end of the year and I’d asked him not to propose on Christmas day (as I had a meal to cook and far too many other things to focus on to be able to enjoy the proposal).
I was convinced he was going to propose on NYE. Absolutely convinced. It didn’t help that he’s a total wind-up merchant and likes to see me stress.
In fact he proposed at 10:55 on Christmas eve… thinking that it was an hour later as he was wearing a watch hadn’t worn since the summer.
I’d give him the benefit of the doubt. He may have something very sweet planned between now and the turn of the year, but you have to leave him to it.