- 5 years ago
- Wedding: June 2013
I wrote this big, long, detailed post and then decided to try to condense it. So, here goes:
All of our groomsmen agreed, several months ago, that they wanted to buy their suits instead of rent. It makes a lot more sense. In our area, renting is about 60% of the cost of buying, rentals aren’t tailored for a perfect fit, only one of these guys actually owns a suit at present (having a suit isn’t a bad thing… and the guy who does own suits is excited for this one)… meaning they will have some good formal wear to use for future weddings and events. It’s a charcoal suit, no garrish patterns or anything, nothing hideous, to be sure. They also got a great deal on their attire, thanks to my brother’s negotiating.
AFTER the fitting – we told them an estimated price of $350 a couple weeks before the fitting – three out of five of the party have thrown up their hands to complain about the final price tag ($385) and want to rent. We found this out last night, when one of the groomsment texted my brother (also a groomsman) to complain and asked him to talk to my fiancé about it. (Why not just talk to my fiancé about it instead of grabbing a middle man…?)
We were dumbfounded and don’t know what to do. No payments have been made yet, but the store is set to start tailoring these suits today when the payment is made. The two who are not complaining about the cost are refusing to rent because it’s a waste of money, meaning that they’ll be mismatched if we let the guys duck out of buying. We’re stuck between a rock and a hard place.
Are we being unreasonable? We asked them at the start if they wanted to rent or buy, updated them on plans as we went, and now, after everything’s done, they’re complaining. These guys are all employed full-time with good jobs, no ridiculous expenses (mortgages, kids, etc.). We did expect a complaint from one of them, but we offered him a chance to intervene (or step down) when we picked our outfitter and he said nothing… until now.
We have been thinking about downsizing our party after all this because most of them have not been particularly helpful. After all the stress and drama that 5/9 of them have offered, I don’t even want to buy these people gifts! The problem is that one of the guys who is complaining about the cost is the Best Man, and the groom’s brother, so we can’t let him off. We are considering letting the other two back down, though. Is that an acceptable compromise?
If not, what do we do? Please help. =(