Post # 1
Hey guys! This might sound stupid but me and my longtime boyfriend have decided we are going to elope this year. Either this summer or Christmas time. We have told our parents that we are planning this the only thing is he hasn’t technically proposed to me yet with a ring.
Would you consider yourself engaged in my situation or should I wait for a proposal??
Post # 2
You’re engaged! Congratulations!!!
Post # 3
- Wedding: June 2018 - Vineyard Lake
I just got my custom engagement ring last week….But my Fiance still hasn’t “technically” proposed to me yet either. Lol
Post # 4
You can definitely consider yourself engaged since you have the intention to marry.
Personally, I would consider myself engaged when either the date was set or there was a ring on my finger. But that’s a personal preference thing.
Post # 5
You have together decided you will marry so yes, you are engaged to be married. Congrats!!
Post # 6
We’ve started venue hunting with no ring, we consider ourselves engaged (we just aren’t announcing it to the world yet!)
Post # 7
I’d consider you to be engaged.
Post # 8
Congrats! You are engaged.
I see a LOT of talk on here like “I’m not engaged if I don’t have the ring! It’s not official until he ASKS me in public!” That’s a bunch of BS. If you are planning to get married, you are engaged. Simple as that. I know it’s not what the materialistic crowd wants to hear, but too bad.
Post # 9
Have you looked for a ring yet? Sounds to me like you are engaged. Ask him his thoughts!
Post # 10
There is no such condition as “technically” engaged. You either are or you aren’t. You are! Congrats!
Post # 11
- Wedding: December 2017 - Courthouse
Heck I’ve been “engaged” with a ring since September and you sound more engaged than me! All we know is courthouse wedding in December lol.
Congrats! And keep us updated!
Post # 12
Well, i think i would check with him! Discussing future marriage plans and an active engagement to me feel different. It doesn’t have require a ring or a date necessarily, but i do think a proposal or at least a verbal confirmation of some kind would give you the security and reassurance you’re both on the same page.
Post # 13
I agree with yaara, I’d say that you are if you and your SO believe you are. It’s definitely not necessary to have a formal proposal and/or ring to be engaged, but it’s also possible to discuss general plans/preferences and timelines before actually getting engaged to ensure you are both on the same page when it comes to future intentions.
Post # 14
I kinda disagree with PP…a lot of guys want that special moment of proposing. While you’re clearly committed to getting married and have decided to do so, I’m not sure I’d tell the world I’m engaged yet without checking with my partner! Maybe he is planning something romantic. Or maybe not and he thinks you’re already engaged! Either way this is a question for your partner, not for the internet!
Post # 15
If you have to ask, that worries me. I’d check in with your significant other and make sure, instead of assuming you are. That’s a huge decision that he needs to make for himself, too.