Post # 1
Hi Bee’s, June 7 bride! one week to go!
Here is my dilemma, we are having our ceremony out of town at a bed and breakfast with a “high tea” reception. It’s a small wedding total of 20 people. After the wedding about 10 people are heading back, we have our bridal party (5) people staying at the bed and breakfast and another couple might stay back as well. If we want to all go out for dinner that night are we expected to pay for everyone??
If that’s the case I will just arrange a barbecue dinner or something because we definatly won’t be in a position to pay for a big dinner after all the wedding costs. Also if it helps we are paying for the accomodation of everyone in the bridal party which comes to about $1000 for 2 nights.
Post # 3
I would plan a dinner that you can afford for everyone that evening.
Post # 4
You could word the invite in a certain way so that the guests know that it’s not a hosted dinner. I would probably avoid that all together though and just host a barbecue.
Post # 4
- Wedding: June 2014 - San Francisco, CA
If it’s not part of the reception and you are super-duper clear about that, then no, I don’t think so. Couple (or family) covers rehearsal dinner, ceremony, reception. All the rest (day-after brunch, etc) is optional.
Post # 6
Yes! This is your wedding dinner, it will take place on your wedding day, and the guests will be your bridal party. You will still be considered as the host.
Post # 7
Your wedding, your dollar.
Post # 8
Thank you everyone, I think Barbecue dinner it will be!
Post # 9
I would probably assume that dinner was being covered for me as a guest but wouldn’t mind a BBQ or something inexpensive. We’re having a BBQ rehearsal dinner at a park beside our venue.
Post # 10
If it’s not part of the wedding, then no.
Post # 11
No, I think you host the high tea reception for everyone to attend at that’s all. Half your guests will leave afterwards = wedding reception is over. But there’s nothing planned for later in the evening, if as you group you choose to go out and eat together, then everybody can cover their own bills.
Post # 12
I think it would be a nice gesture to do the BBQ dinner, but no, it’s not necessary, unless you claim it as part of the wedding festivities and require everyone else to go.
Post # 13
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
I don’t think you are obligated to host a post-reception dinner. If you want, you could tell everyone who is staying at the b&b that you and your (now) husband plan to dine at XYZ restaurant at 7:30pm, and if anoyone wants to meet up then, you are cool with having some casual hangout time. Or you and your (now) husband can enjoy a private dinner and revel in your just married giggles, while everyone else makes their own post-reception meal plans.
Post # 14
HuysuzAyi33: I’m confused, are you hosting high tea or afternoon tea? It’s my understanding that “high tea” is actually served late in the afternoon (i.e. 5:00pm) and is a full/heavy meal, so I can’t imagine your guests wanting to eat dinner after something like that. If you mean afternoon tea aka “low tea” (i.e. finger sandwiches, scones, etc) and you wanted to have an additional dinner for your guests, then I would think you would be hosting.
Post # 15
You can have a casual afterparty just by word of mouth (make sure to invite all guests) abd those who came to the dinner would pay for themselves. Or, you can host a dinner for everyone and pay. I would not do as you are planning because that sounds like a tiered reception.