Post # 1
We got married in April, but couldn’t take a honeymoon right away due to both of our schedules. We could go anytime from June through August.
Throughout the wedding planning, my SO wanted to plan the honeymoon. His dad was going to contribute to it as his gift and my SO wanted to be in charge of taking care of it all. Ok, sounds good, right?
I did some research to find a resort that fit most of our preferences and would be about $3,000 for a week all-inclusive and w/ airfare. Well, that was a month ago, still not progress and checking today the room tyle we wanted is booked throughout the weeks we could go.
Well, we still don’t know when we’re going and my Father-In-Law hasn’t said how much he will contribute which makes it hard to plan. I’ve brought up the idea of taking a less expensive honeymoon that we could afford ourselves, but he doesn’t want to do that. I’m worried that we won’t wind up going on a honeymoon.
What can I do about it? Should I just let it go and accept that we won’t have a trip. I’ve been looking forward to it and he’s been telling people we’re going on a resort trip this summer.
Post # 3
If he did offer, then you should approach him. Gently of course. I would plan 3 options of trips, ranging in price, and present them (with your husband) to your Father in Law. For example, say “Thank you so much Father-In-Law, we’re so excited and honored that you would like to help us with our Honeymoon! We’re thinking either A (somewhere crazy, like Fiji, for $$$$), or B (somewhere middle of the road, like Napa Valley?, for $$$), or C (somewhere local, like Cape Cod or another local resort depending where you are, for $$)” —
and see what he says?
Post # 4
My sister had a similar situation (both the delay and the gift from her inlaws). she casually talked with her Mother-In-Law and Father-In-Law and they worked it out. I think her husband just felt weird about getting the trip from his parents, like he sould be the one paying not them, but it’s a wedding gift. Her in-laws wer glad to get it taken care of and they had an awesome time.
Post # 5
Thanks for the comments, bees! My husband talked to his father, who is looking into things and will get back to us.
So, not quite sure what that will mean, so please keep the comments coming!