(Closed) are we supposed to say “I do”?

posted 10 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2018

Definitely check out The Wedding Ceremony Planner by Judith Johnson (we got ours on Amazon).  It gives great sample ceremony plans from start to finish.  We’re writing our own vows but we’re going to use bits and pieces from the welcome/gathering words section as well as the ring section.  It’s a great place to start and makes it much less overwhelming.  My dad is officiating the ceremony and he’ll have to come up with a few words between the welcome we found and our vows.

As for the "I do" bit, no idea there.  Since we’re doing our vows it probably wouldn’t fit easily but I’d be interested to hear other’s opinions/experiences.

Good luck!

Post # 4
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

Hi dreambml,

 We added the Declaration of Intent after the Welcome and it goes like this:

With this in mind (follows the welcome and what marriage symbolizes), Bride and Groom, I will now ask you to declare your intentions before these witnesses. 

Do you, Groom, promise to give Bride all the love of your heart, your wit and your wisdom; to be her star and compass her faithful companion, her husband and her best friend?

Groom says, "I do".

Do you, Bride, promise to give Groom all the love of your heart, your wit and your wisdom; to be his star and compass, his faithful companion, his wife and his best friend?

Bride says, "I do".

OR

Groom, do you take Bride to be your wedded wife? Do you promise to love her, comfort her, honor and respect her, and be faithful to her all the days of your life?

Groom says, "I do".

And, Bride, do you take Groom to be your wedded husband? Do you promise to love him, comfort him, honor and respect him, and be faithful to him all the days of your life?

Bride says, "I do".

HTH!

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2005

If I remember correctly, it’s the legal part of the ceremony. Basically you’re saying you marry this person of your own free will. Think Princess Bride:

BUTTERCUP
Oh, Westley, will you ever forgive me?
WESTLEY
What hideous sin have you committed lately?
BUTTERCUP
I got married. I didn’t want to. It all happened so fast.
WESTLEY
It never happened.
BUTTERCUP
What?
WESTLEY
It never happened.
BUTTERCUP
But it did. I was there. This old man said, "Man and wife."
WESTLEY
Did you say, "I do"?
BUTTERCUP
Well, no, we sort of skipped that part.
WESTLEY
Then you’re not married — if you didn’t say it, you didn’t do it —

Post # 6
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2008

In case its helpful our ceremony will go like this:

1. Welcom the guests

2. declaration of intent

The officiant asks us if we’re here of our own free will to become man and wife with no impediments known to us and we respond that we are.

3. Vows

We each say our personal vows and then have the officiant guide us with previously agreed on vows of the ‘ I bride, take you groom to be me husband type’

3. Exchange of rings

4. signing of register and lighting of lamp

5 announcement of the newlyweds and the Kiss

 

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