(Closed) Are wedding bands necessary?? Help, I don't like any band with my ering!

posted 6 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I am not wearing a wedding ring…just don’t want to. Incidentally, I wear a round brilliant solitaire as well.  

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

You don’t NEED a wedding ring, but I always find it awkward when I’m making small talk with someone and compliment them on their engagement ring, only to find out they’ve been married for awhile.  

Typically people who don’t choose bands have more elaborate settings.  Since you only have a solitaire, it’s more likely that people will assume you’re unmarried.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@futuremrsbc:  Nope, they’re not! You can wear whatever you like! I know a girl who just got the inside of her ring engraved with their wedding date. 

Your ring is so elegant! I’d keeo browsing around for something. Maybe just a very thin, simple band? I’ve seen some gorgeous thin pave bands as well. Or try Etsy!

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

Why don’t you just get a solid, white gold band that is the same width as that one?  That will probably match perfectly, and you don’t have to worry about it being too flashy or standing out much.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

I agree with @Rubbs:.  in addition to it being the same width, see if you can find a plain band that is the same exact style as your e-ring band (as in the way it curves).  sometimes even very subtle details can make or break a ring set.  

if you go to the store where the ring was purchased, they might have a band that matches it exactly. 

but if you don’t want a band at all, I think that’s totally ok too. it’s entirely up to you. 
 

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

I think you’re crazy to not wear a wedding band once you’re married.  Sorry, but that’s my opinion.  I do know how you feel though.

It took me FOREVER to find a wedding band I liked.  I thought I was never going to find anything, and it was really frustrating.  My ring is really intricate, so I felt like nothing matched.  The company who made my e-ring actually makes a matching wedding ring, but no stores ever carried it!  And I didn’t want to order it without trying it on.  Eventually, I did find the perfect wedding ring and now I can’t wait to be married so I can wear it!!!  I’d say stick it out, keep looking, and eventually you’ll find it.

P.S. Have you even talked to your fiance about not wearing a wedding band?  He might be really against it.

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I think it’s a personal choice – either way the ring communicates what it’s supposed to, which is “Hands off, taken lady!”.  

Have you considered looking at a band that you like by itself? I’m having a difficult time finding a wedding band (my ring is also a solitare) but when I started looking at bands without my engagement ring on, things got a lot easier. There are some really pretty choices out there!

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Its completely fine to not wear a wedding band! I know a lot of people who just have one ring. You may want to consider getting a plain white gold band to wear for traveling/whenever you don’t want to wear your diamond ring, even if you never wear them as a set. Good luck!

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

I have a princess-cut solitaire that looks to be about the same size as yours. I also have thin/short fingers (size 4.5).

I actually asked my Fiance if I could just wear my e-ring because I love it so much, but he said he really wanted me to wear a wedding band because he wants everyone to know we’re married! I got the feeling his feelings would be hurt, so off to buy a wedding band I go. 😛

For mine, I wanted something that sort of complemented my ring without overwhelming it. The wedding band that came with it had five or six small prong-set diamonds, which I didn’t like at all- it was just too much. But a plain gold band didn’t really do it for me either.

So I’m getting a channel set band with small princess-cut stones in it, to match my center stone. I really like the channel set look because the stones are actually down IN the band and not all in-my-face, lol.

If you haven’t already, perhaps try a simple small channel-set with rounds like this to match your stone? I think it’s very delicate and pretty.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I think its fine if you don’t want to wear one. You will just have to decide on the logistics if you still want to do a ring exchange during your ceremony. 

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@Rubbs:  I agree, too. My engagement ring is similar to yours, and I also felt like most rings detracted from it. I ended up getting a plain band custom made to match the band on my engagement ring EXACTLY (super thin — like 1.3mm)… and while it took me awhile to get used to it, I love it. 

But, that said, no, of course you don’t have to wear one if you don’t like it!!

Post # 16
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Busy bee

I think it makes more sense to not wear a wedding band with different styles than your solitaire. What about wearing your e-ring on your right hand and a wedding band on your left?

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