Post # 1
Me and my partner have found a lovely place but they do wedding packages and half the things included seem to be stuff i dont see the point in. like offering free boquets or room for just the bride and bridesmaids on the morning. one of them even included a hairdresser and make up artist. i just dont see the point in paying thousands when dont think we would use any of that stuff. like wed just get dressed and do our own hair before we leave. i think my partner just wants to book one so it is easier but id rather put in the work and save.
Post # 2
All the things you mentioned are all pretty standard wedding things TBH. Are you planning on having a pretty traditional wedding? I just don’t see how an extra room for your bridal party is so excessive.
we looked at a few “all inclusive packages” that had things that were totally not our style (ice sculptures, photo booths, etc). I ended up going with a place that was most inclusive and yeah, it did end up locking us into a couple things we might not have done – like our package came with a traditional wedding cake so….we had a wedding cake. We might have done a dessert buffet otherwise. It’s not the worst to just have things be stress free.
I reiterate though – if you’re envisioning a pretty traditional wedding, you’re probably going to want a bouquet and a place to chill in the morning….most brides get their hair and makeup done as well
Post # 3
oliver247 : Honestly, most places are pretty willing to negotiate. If you don’t want these things, see if there’s something you can arrange with the venue. The packages they advertise are trying to please all brides.
But know high end places and hotels usually have a minimum spend, so if you’re wanting to take things out to reduce the cost, they will likely make you pay a minimum anyway.
Post # 4
- Wedding: April 2017 - City, State
I specifically picked a venue that did not lock me into any vendors or particular services. I got a list of what was standard but was able to customize it however I wanted to. For me, I didn’t see the value of paying extra for things I didn’t want, but did see the value of paying extra to have the freedom to do and have whatever I wanted. It was more work on my end but I got exactly what I wanted and nothing I didn’t.
Post # 5
What’s your wedding style? I went through a similar kind of thing trying to book my (hopefully) more chill wedding. They wanted to tack on a fee for things I didn’t want/that didn’t apply to our wedding. We moved on and eventually found the right fit.
Post # 6
I am super happy we are going with a pckage esp as we are traveling to our own wedding.
They are extremely flexible with us and makes everything much easier.
Post # 7
I’m not a fan of all inclusive venues. They seem much more pricy and not worth it unless you’re doing destination or a huge wedding.
FH and I wanted to be able to pick our own photographer at minimum. We’re using a BYOB blank slate venue. At first it was a little daunting to research vendors and figure out logistics, but our event manager and planner gave us referrals.
The caterer will take care of the bulk of the work, such as set up, tear down, food, linens and tables. Our planner will do the decor and help with set up and tear down. I’m glad we get to pick which vendors to use. I thought it would be extra work at first, but it’s really not. If you’re doing blank slate, you may want to look into a partial planner at least so you’re not coordinating all the vendors yourself. Our caterer also provides a planning service, you may be able to save money if you find packaged vendors like that.
Post # 8
I dont really mind about the wedding to much. Its my partners first and they want more tradtional an big as its the first big one in the family in a while so were lookng at places for them. just it all seems to be Bride Bride Bride and nothing for grooms so i dont get what they would offer for the guys in return for dropping all the girly stuff.
Post # 9
oliver247 : why not ask them? Mine doesn’t include any girly stuff. Just 3k worth of food. Decor, etc.
Post # 10
Just ask to remove them. I was able to do that with my venue and they ended up customizing a package for us based only on what we want/need which lowered the total price. oliver247 :
Post # 11
Our venue was kind of inclusive. Basically it included 2 rooms for bridal party available all day. food (6 passed apps, crudite stuff, 3 course dinner), linnens, open bar, champagne toast. The things that were “included” were the cake and the centerpieces. I didn’t have a choice on centerpieces, but I loved them (simple white hydrangeas in a square vase). The cake we were able to work with the bakery we wanted, so it all worked out. I was very happy with how it turned out. By having these “inclusive” things, it took a lot of stress off of me. But I wouldn’t go with a place that included a photographer, makeup artist, or hairdresser, because I want to be able to vet those on my own