Post # 1
Hey bees, FH and I have been going back and forth with trying to decide if we want a wedding planner (not the book, the actual person). So I thought I’d ask you bees to vote on whether or not you used/planned on using a wedding planner and was it worth it?
Post # 3
I’m in the same situation – debating between having one or not so I want to see the responses!
Post # 4
I believe they are definitely worth it. My planner has basically paid for herself. She has saved me money through her connections with florists, photographers, and just about everything else. A wedding planner will help take some of the stress away from the whole wedding experience. I would definitely recommend hiring one.
Post # 5
Do you mind messaging me who you are using? We are in the same state and your wedding is the day before mine!!
Post # 6
I have never known anyone to have a wedding planner. It’s just not something that is done in my social circle or in my region. Where I live, a wedding planner is something you have if you’re rich. Like, filthy rich. lol
I think if you can afford it and are very busy with your work lives or other aspects of your personal lives, it can be helpful.
But I also can’t imagine just trusting someone I’ve meet once or twice with the most important, personal day of my life. And from what I’ve heard/seen, a lot of planners can be really pushy and over-the-top and try to make every wedding so cookie cutter. And I am not a cookie cutter kinda girl.
Obviously it depends on your personality/budget/life in general but a wedding planner was not even a passing thought on the radar for us and I know it isn’t for 99% of the people I know who are getting married/have gotten married.
I’m sure some people find them great and feel like they’re life-savers but again, it’s just not even something we’d consider.
Post # 7
I highly recommend a day of coordinator! I didn’t need someone to book my vendors, but my DOC has already paid for herself a few times over with the connections she has! She really goes above and beyond and I know that’s not the norm for DOC’s. She was the first vendor I hired as I didn’t want to stress about anything the day of or the week of for that matter!
Post # 8
In the UK, it isn’t common to get a wedding planner; I don’t know/know of anyone who’s used one.
We’re not using one for several reasons. First, though we have a decent budget (around $30,000 exlcuding the rings and honeymoon for a fairly small wedding) we still can’t get everything we want in that budget, and have had to make cut-backs eg we’re not having transport (which TBF isn’t needed, but would be nice for photos), we’re probably going to get an album for our 1st anniversary rather than straight after the wedding as they cost from $800, we’re DIYing our stationary, as the invites etc we like cost about $9 each, and I can DIY them for about $3 each, etc. I also don’t believe that a wedding planner would have saved us money, as here in the UK they’re not common-place, and I’m not at all convinced they’d have got any better deals on things than we’ve been able to secure ourselves.
Second, we have the time to plan. We’re having a long engagement, and, while OH works full-time, and I study full-time AND have 2 part-time jobs, I have found the planning fairly easy and stress-free, and not too time-consuming.
Third, and most importantly, I’m a huge control-freak, and we are both VERY fussy. I really don’t think we could have entrusted something this big and important to a stranger. We have very specific tastes and I would have worried that using a planner we’d have ended up with something quite ‘generic’ eg the typical venue, the photographer that the planner has contacts with, etc, rather than what suits us and our tastes. For example, I trawled through over 100 venues online, and only liked a dozen enough to bother viewing them, and of those, we only feel in love with one, which is an obscure venue not in any wedding magazines/on any wedding websites, that few people in the industry have heard of because it isn’t a ‘typical’ venue; I really doubt a planner would have chosen it for us.
Post # 9
While I love doing everything by my self, I wold LOVE a day of coordinatior. Sadly, that runs around $600+ in my area for just the day. I can’t find it into my budget so we are having friends help us the day of the wedding with coordination things.
Post # 10
Thanks for the tips ladies! Now I’m beginning to think it may better for us to plan our own wedding and hire a day of coordinator to make sure everything goes as planned.
Post # 11
I am right there with you–control freak, and we have specific tastes. FI especially has strong opinions and does not want the day to get weird on him.
My oldest sister is a retail manager and makes me look laid-back by comparison and was pretty much salivating to be the day-of coordinator once we told her of our engagement.
I think a lot of it has to do with venue and headcount. We are inviting no more than 40 people. If it were 100 or more, then I’d consider some sort of coordinator.