Post # 1
Is it just me or is just because I’m planning a wedding that weddings seem particularly out of control lately? Perhaps I’m just seeing wedding stuff everywhere and its always been this way but I think its gone to a new level.
I only ever remember Say yes to the Dress on TV and now there are several wedding design shows, the shedding for the wedding, the extreme make over bride show. Also there are wedding stores everywhere. Nordstroms, Macy’s and Anthropologie have new bridal stores. Etsy has a wedding section. I feel like its out of control. As if there wasn’t enough pressure before
I should have been married in the 50’s. You get married in the church and you go the basement or the yard to cut some cake and everyone goes home.
Post # 3
I agree that things have gotten way out of hand. Shows like Say Yes to the Dress show a lot of spoiled women whining to their family to get $20,000+ for a wedding dress they’re going to wear for a few hours.
I DO have to say that I like that there are sites like weddingbee.com for people like me…who want to put their love and effort together to show their family/friends a good time. Even if I had the money I would rather make as much as I could myself. That’s just the type of person that I am.
We decided last week that we are keeping things as low-key as possible. We’re having an “engagement party” surprise wedding. 🙂 People will come to celebrate, eat, I’ll have some fun bride/groom-to-be trivia games, and then I will sneak away to change, someone will send my dad in, and we will open the door & I’ll walk out in my dress and we’ll get married right there. No opinions about money, people invited, food, location, etc etc etc. Done our way, prepared on the down-low and perfect. 🙂 You’re right – at the end of the day, it’s about the bride and groom, and the rest of us shouldn’t be expecting a huge party, blow-out of the year; but rather should genuinely be attending to show our love and support of their union.
Post # 4
I just feel like no matter where I look, there is wedding stuff being shoved in my face. I could not figure out if I was just noticing it more because I’m planning or if there really is more.
Sites like this are more places people seek out, not something you can’t avoid like all the TV shows.
Post # 5
I think you are noticing it more because you are planning a wedding.. it’s like when you are pregnant and everyone else around you everywhere you go is pregnant or with a young child.
Post # 6
@Snowy414: Probably a combination of both. Just like women TTC suddenly see babies all over the place I think brides are hyper sensitive to wedding stuff.
You can avoid the TV shows, though. Change the channel. Just sayin’.
Post # 7
I think they are WAY out of control and have become almost competition like.
Post # 8
@Elarissa: I think so, too! A lot of it was always there, but I know I notice way more now that I’m so focused on wedding planning. I do agree that there are tons of wedding shows out there now, though.
Post # 9
Yes, they are out of control. And yes, until the 40s or 50s middle/working class people just got married at church and had a home reception with cake and punch. Only the very wealthy or entitled (i.e. royalty) had these huge celebrations that you all see today. But somewhere women got the idea (or it was fed to them) that they too, deserved all the pomp and circumstance.
And now you have people spending the most ridiculous amounts of money (most of us aren’t wealthy) and going into debt for a wedding that lasts one day. That said, did I want to get married like a princess? Um, guilty! lol
Post # 10
Oh hells yes. So many “essentials” nowadays are so far from essentials it’s almost laughable. Save-The-Date Cards, favors, limos, reception dresses, all of those things.
That being said, if I had a limitless wedding budget I’d go all out…
Post # 11
They are out of control. People make weddings out to be much more big and elaborate than they need to be… or have ever been. Then there are mags and sites like the knot that blow things up even more.. the wedding industry is growing for sure.
Post # 12
I was thinking this very same thing last week… thought I was just noticing it more cause I’m engaged now but I do think it’s gotten very commercial (well more so than ever before)! LoL
Post # 13
Yes, they are bigger than ever and may seem out of control but there is a silver lining in that cloud too….brides and grooms have so much more freedom of expression now! 28 years ago we were forced into the traditional church/punch/cake because that was all that was the norm for my social class then. Wow, had we been able to do things a little more meaningful to both of us would we have had a totally different wedding celebration! As it was, I DIY’d tons of stuff but got quite a bit of snickering-behind-the-back for it too.
Too many of these current tv shows featuring the wedding industry are all about sensationalizing this event and of course, making money. Puts the pressure on all the rest of us, but at least you have a place like this to come and vent to other brides (and MOB’s) and they’ll understand your frustrations. Hang in there and have a beautiful wedding YOUR WAY.
Post # 14
I think a lot of weddings are out of control. It should only be about one thing, but it becomes about many things.
Post # 15
the wedding business is recession proof….. think about it….
Post # 16
I think 2006 was the height of wedding mania & paralled the stock market/real estate spike.