(Closed) are you…

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: are you a giver or taker?
    giver : (53 votes)
    58 %
    taker : (38 votes)
    42 %
  • Post # 3
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    4466 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I’m definitely the giver.  Fiance is the baby of his family, while I’m the oldest.  I’m used to always helping out and doing things for people.  It’s not that he doesn’t help out, but he definitely needs a LOT of direction.

    Post # 4
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    393 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    wow that sounds similar to me! But I’m also a mom of 2, and apparently all men are just big kids who need another mom! that’s what we’re here for. I put everyone else in front of me, and i get screwed, which i know and do nothing about, lol. but if i don’t do it, no one else will!

    Post # 5
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    2289 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    Hmm…I think I’m the giver on most things since it’s in my nature to look after others (and I’m the youngest of four! Interesting). However, occasionally I do want to be the taker, so I’ll let Fiance know and he’s very accomodating.

    Post # 6
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    1049 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 1998

    Fiance is definitely the giver. He’s really thoughtful of others always. Makes me feel like kind of a jerk sometimes. haha

    His mama raised him good. 🙂

    Post # 7
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    5977 posts
    Bee Keeper

    If I had to choose, I would say that I’m the taker. We both take care of each other, but he’s the most thoughtful and generous person I have ever met. He’s always thinking about how situations will affect others and is just generally a very thoughtful person. He’s a real sweetheart!

    Post # 8
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    2054 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    I think im the taker…i hate saying it out loud though! I do a lot of things for Teddy but he always ends up giving more…He takes care of me 🙂

    Post # 9
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    581 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2015

    I think there is a higher percentage on the woman being a taker. Men are more laid back…

    Post # 10
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    173 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    although the roles change i’d say he is the giver…but he has learned to cook through me and is doing oh so well.lucky me…i’ve barely cooked in a month,hehe

    Post # 11
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    2090 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I think I’m the taker? FH loves to brush my hair at night, because it swears it relaxes him, and he gives me shoulder rubs all the time, which of course makes me feel like the taker lol

    He is also a neat-freak, so he is always cleaning the house. I never remember how messy I am until he is away for a weekend or whatever for work. Basically the only cleaning I have to do is I help everynight with the dishes, and I sweep and vacuum on the weekends. He does all the nasty cleaning, like litterbox and bathrooms.

    he also definately says “I love you” more. I love him, of course, I just don’t think to say it as much as he does.

    Post # 12
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    10367 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I like to think of myself as pretty balanced – Fiance and I both give a great deal, so in return, we both take!

    Post # 13
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    3587 posts
    Sugar bee

    I think we are both givers, but then he is the baby of the family, so I’ll say on this website only, he’s a taker.LOL Y’all know how the babies are!

    Post # 14
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    7431 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2009

    I’m the giver mostly, but there are definitely times when he is (like when it comes to working on our cars, he does everything and almost always pays for it. like the majority of our bills too…)

    Post # 15
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    224 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    He is the first person to ever take care of me, since my grandmother watched me as an infant, while my parents worked.  While I certainly pitch in my share and then some, I am perfectly content to be looked after for a change.

    Post # 16
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    1135 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2009

    I’m definitely the giver and he’s the taker, and we’ve talked about it a lot.  Doesn’t bother me, I like it.  But, I wanted to throw this in here: I was an only child, so I don’t think being an only child automatically makes you a taker.  Fiance was one of 3, and this did not make him magically better at sharing and giving!  I hate that only children get a bad rap!!  We’re not that bad!

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