Are you a gift person? Is your spouse a gift person? How do you make it work?

posted 10 months ago in Holidays
  • poll: Are you and your spouse big gifters?
    I'm a big gifter, my spouse is not : (25 votes)
    41 %
    My spouse is a big gifter, I am not : (2 votes)
    3 %
    Neither of us are big gifters : (17 votes)
    28 %
    We are both big gifters : (17 votes)
    28 %
  • Post # 16
    Member
    6226 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Gift giving is my love language! My parents are very lazy and prefer to give an envelope of cash wrapped up with a bow every Christmas starting when we were in sixth grade or so. Fine, but not thoughtful, etc. I must be rebelling because I spend months choosing exactly the right gifts for each person on both sides of our family! Destination Wedding forced me to reign it in for our son (3) 😂 Like a previous poster, I spent about $125 on him this Christmas including Santa gifts. And these days she and I buy one nice thing for each other (think Burberry scarf). Her parents are not big into gifts but they come out and spend every Christmas with us cooking and hanging out so that’s awesome.

    Post # 17
    Member
    1965 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2017 - Pearson Convention Centre

    I enjoy buying people gifts, they don’t have to be expensive but I always try to get something with meaning or something sentimental.

    Post # 18
    Member
    363 posts
    Helper bee

    SO and I are not big gifters, my family isn’t, his family is. The older we get and the more money we make, we care less about gifts and stuff because we have everything we could possibly want/need and we don’t wait for special occasions to get stuff anymore. We don’t buy new phones every year, but if we needed to replace a gadget, we’d buy it when it comes out or when we need it. Gifting is harder and harder every year because people don’t enjoy/want delayed gratification anymore.

    Post # 19
    Member
    2568 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2017 - Courthouse

    sboom :  I was just talking to my best friend about this. I think it’s nice to give gifts to people who are super close to you for the holidays. But I think it’s a little excessive to have to buy for extended families and such. My husband’s aunt, uncle and two cousins are in town. My entire family is across the country. My husband’s grandma is across the country. And my Mother-In-Law and all of my brother-in-laws are a 4+ hour drive away. It makes gifts super stressful. I wish we could just do gifts for our parents. 

    It’s weird bc me and my husband are both kinda bad with gifts. We’re not big birthday/anniversary/valentines day people. We’d rather go out to eat or experience something than spend money on gifts. My parents are like that. They would give me gifts growing up, but nothing huge. My husband’s family always does gifts and it makes me uncomfortable bc I won’t give them things back bc I didn’t know we were doing gifts!

    Overall though, as a couple, I think it’s nice to be able to focus on the event and not the gifts. For Christmas we might spend $100 on each other. This year it was more like $50 though. 

    Post # 20
    Member
    692 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2018 - UK

    My husband and I are both big gift givers, as are my parents. Most of the rest of my family aren’t though, neither do my in-laws. I’ll typically spend about £300-400 on my husband, about £100 on my parents, and then around £30-50 each for cousins, aunts and uncles, friends, etc. 

    My mum, especially, tends to go really overboard with gifts. I picked up the presents from her yesterday for me and my husband, and they barely all fit in the car. She loves giving gifts, it makes her happy, and I’m an only child, so I’ve always been spoiled!

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