Post # 1
Bee and I were talking recently about happiness… as in, who is an inherently happy person or not.
I’ve noticed I’m pretty neutral with my emotions… I have passionate emotions, but I work pretty hard to keep them in check most of the time.
I tend to surround myself with slightly grumpy people and try to cheer them up. At least, I’ve noticed that most of my friends are on the grumpy-neutral side. I had no idea I did this until recently, when I realized I didn’t know that many sunshine-happy people!
How about you: are you a sunshine-happy person? What about your FI?
Post # 3
- Wedding: March 2005 - Westside Loft, New York
I am not an inherently happy person. I am a pessimist, and pretty much always stressed, anxious or depressed. Sadly!
Mr. Bee is definitely the optimist in our relationship.
Post # 4
Fiance and I are both happy people. He’s a die hard optimist and I’m optimistacally realistic. But yes, I am happy and bubbly most of the time. I dont’ like complainers and whiners. I would say 95% of my friends are the same way. I have one friend who is definitely not a happy person. She’s often negative and complains about everything and just has a negative outlook on life. That’s been the number 1 reason for us growing apart and not staying as good of friends as we used to be. I dont see her that often becuase she lives across the country so it’s not as big of a deal but after we hang out I feel drained. I could never see her on a regular basis.
Post # 5
i wouldnt say im a happy person (ie i dont bounce around the office all day giddy and smiling) but im generally a very positive person and i think that shows
Post # 6
I gotta DITTO mrsbee. Though, I just say I’m a realist. BUT, I would have to say, yes, I am a happy person. Well, now that Boyfriend or Best Friend and I are FINALLY getting married, after 7 1/2 years, I am THE HAPPIEST PERSON ON THE FACE OF THE EARTH. Didn’t think it would affect me this way, but, it has!!
Post # 7
Like eloping, I’m not the bouncy optimistic type that you might want to slug on a Monday morning, but overall I am a positive person. I do try to look for the silver lining, as a general rule. I know some relentlessly negative people and I find them so draining to be around.
Post # 8
I’m a pretty happy person all around, my fiance even more so. Both of us go through mood swings, but the downturns tend to be few and far between.
I’m with fontgoddess; I too feel sucked dry when I’m around extremely negative people.
Post # 9
I’m the happy person. My fiance is much more the realist/pessimist. I think it is a good balance. 🙂
Post # 10
I’m definitely the bouncy, smiley, giddy type. My husband is more reserved, but still very happy. Actually, at a renaissance fair a few weekends ago, an energy masseuse told my husband and I that our individual energies are very high but balance nicely since I expel my energy and he reserves his. Kinda random…
Post # 11
I’m a generally happy person, I’d say, but I definitely have struggled through some pretty "down" times. I’m an anxious and high-stress person, too, but overall, I really enjoy life! (yay for medication! 😉 )
Post # 12
Yeah i would say i am most definately a happy person …People call me Giggles , its so bad ..lol and I’m also the person people will go up to and just start talking to ..exam..fiance and me walking down the street ..and out of the blue people start talking to me..and ignore him…Its happened so much that its like a joke with us..So yeah DEFINATELY happy…but when i’m mad ..ITS ON ..LOL..
Post # 13
I fall in both camps, when surrounded by happy sunshiney people the pessimist (or New Yorker) in me come out. However when people around me are sad/upset or down I am like a cheerleader. My husband tends to be more dour. So I always seem like the fun one…
Post # 14
I’m kind of on the neutral side. I don’t go crazy with my emotions either way for the most part. Like if I’m excited, I’ll smile and be in good spirits, but I never scream or hop around and get all crazy. Also, I’m currently unemployed but I’m not all "oh woe is me" and being a Debbie Downer about it either. I am fairly optimistic. Hubby is definitely the pessmistic one and when he got word that he MIGHT lose his job (he didn’t) it effected our lives for a few weeks (even though at that time, I had a job).
Post # 15
With my friends, I tend to be the happy sunshine person of the bunch, because I like to cheer them up.
However, at home and with family, I’m the party-pooper. I am inherently pessimistic, cynical, and always stressed.
My Fiance is a dreamer, and always sees the bright side of things. He’s always griping that I’m such a downer.
I like to say that I’m just "realistic".
Post # 16
I’m a realist, but a very positive one- the only time any negativity shows is when I’m trying to pull SO down from one of his crazy ideas, hah. I am not however a romantic or have really romantic notions- I have a strong disdane for chick flicks, drama, and emotional situations (I run from sad situations). SO is positive, but prone to bouts of anxiety which can make him grumpy, but it doesn’t happen too often. He handles his emotions a lot better than I do, and he’s a total romantic- he likes chick flicks, hah, I can’t watch anything but horror and action movies