(Closed) Are you a more traditional bride than you thought you’d be?

posted 7 years ago in Traditions
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I was the opposite….I always thought I would be traditional and I am very very modern.

Post # 4
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

We were very set on having a very untraditional wedding but we have found a few traditions sneaking in…

-tossing bouquet and garter

-round 1 carat solitaire ering

-staying in a hotel the night were married and leaving for the honeymoon the next morning

-going to the bahamas for our honeymoon

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Im in the same boat as sbharkness83. I think the only thing that is really traditional is that Im not getting married at the courthouse by a judge. We are getting married outdoors but its not the traditional rev. doing it…..we are being married by Darth Vader…..a super secret suprise for the FH! I cant wait!

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I think I was the reverse as well, surprised that I liked so many non-traditional things.

I mean, there were still some traditional bits: no first look, dad walking me down the aisle, first time on our wedding night, simple white A-line gown.

But most everything else was nontraditional: flowers, music, food, budget, centerpieces, activities.

And honestly, if I’d had more money it would have been even less traditional. There were places where I had to go with the flow instead of with my vision because of cost.

So all in all I suppose we were about 50/50. Didn’t give my grandmother a heart attack and didn’t make me want to hurl.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’m more traditional as a bride and in the role of a wife as I thought…

I’m using a lot of white in flowers and details, have a bridal party, not letting FH see the dress (always thought I would want his opinion), seeing each other for the first time walking down the aisle, just my father walking me down (always thought my mum and dad would), more traditional vows and walking down to bridal chorus.

I used to cringe when my FH called me a housewife jokingly but now I feel proud that I can keep the house together and take care of him.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’m more traditional as a bride and in the role of a wife as I thought…

 

I’m using a lot of white in flowers and details, have a bridal party, not letting FH see the dress (always thought I would want his opinion), seeing each other for the first time walking down the aisle, just my father walking me down (always thought my mum and dad would), more traditional vows and walking down to bridal chorus.

 

I used to cringe when my FH called me a housewife jokingly but now I feel proud that I can keep the house together and take care of him.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Definitely turning out very traditional. Part of me would like to go for a knee-length dress, brooch bouquet, wild(-ish) decorations, cup cake tower, etc. But in all honesty, that’s not me. So instead we will have:

– a long and white-ish dress

– fresh flower bouquet

– traditional wedding cake (probably)

– regular UK traditions (e.g. speeches by father of the bride, groom and best man, first dance, cutting the cake)

I’m hoping that, although very traditional, it will also be a beautiful day.

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Yeah I was surprised with myself.

  • Didn’t want a first look
  • Got married in the church where I was christened, at first we thought of getting married in NYC
  • I wore a Cathedral lenght veil, this was a shocker for me though….
  • My dress had a cathedral length train
  • I wore a pearl bracelet and earrings
  • After original thought we had a sit-down meal served to us
  • Had a gift list

 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

yes,  although it is the second time around for both of us,  i still want to keep some things traditional. 

i will be buying my bridesmaids dresses, flowers, shoes, jewellery  etc etc  etc

we wont be getting married in church as i did that the first time around….

i wont do a first look

i wont have a gift list

i wont have a card box

i WILL be doing pre wedding bridals…my son is a photographer and he is doing it, but my H2B  wont be seeing them…..they are for going in the album, in case we dont get much time on the actual day.

i wont throw my bouquet…..its a brooch bouquet weighing in at 1.5 kg…..it could take someones head off!

the garter toss is a US  thing so we wont be doing that

i wont be having a rehearsal meal….

i wont be having a bridal shower…..another US  thing.

i dont want FI  to see me untill i am standig next to him at the alter

i wont be wearing a veil

i will be wearing a shorter (tea length )  dress

we will be staying at the hotel the evening of our wedding,  then home the next day..our honeymoon will be 3 weeks later…..(we booked for september as it was virtually HALF  the price of going in August! ) 

i am having silk centrepieces but i am having a large birdcage filled with fresh flowers……and these flowers will be laid on my mums grave the day after our wedding,  its a tradition to place your wedding bouquet on a parents grave but i cant as mine is not a flower bouquet.

we will NOT  be shoving wedding cake into each others faces! 

and i WONT  be having a picture of me and H2B  under my veil!  (well i am not wearing one so thats why,  but i wouldnt anyway, even if i was wearing one) 

i hate that shot!

 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

ooooh,  one  non-tradtional  Uk  thing i am doing is NOT  having a fruit wedding cake,  i am having a 3 tiered  US inspired  red velvet cake with cream cheese filling…..

well,  the bottom tier is red velvet, and the other 2 are vanilla…..

Post # 12
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Blushing bee

I’m definitely more traditional than I thought I was going to be this time around.  Last time I had the whole traditional affair and well, it didn’t end so “happily…” so this time, Mr. M and I decided to skip the whole fiasco and just elope in Vegas (just the 2 of us, then telling our families once we’re back)-which is very untraditional.

With that said, I still bought a beautiful white dress, which Mr. M hasn’t seen.  We’re doing a traditional ceremony in a chapel (no Elvis).  We’re doing a wedding cake in our hotel room, and having a photographer.  I bought toasting flutes & a server set w/ our monograms and date engraved.  Although we’re going the non-traditional route, I still am very much a traditional bride I suppose 🙂

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I really thought our wedding would be super unique, but when it came down to it, I really prefer the traditional wedding stuff. The biggest surprise is my dress–ivory taffeta ballgown…never saw that coming.

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

I think I had a good mix of traditional and non traditional.

Our ceremony was a traditional Jewish ceremony. We did a first look b/c we had to sign the ketubah, my parents walked me down the aisle, they stood  under the chuppah with us, etc.

I guess the rest was pretty non-traditional. I wore a short dress, my bridesmaids didn’t match and were in printed dresses, the reception was just a dinner, no dancing so there was no first dance or dancing with parents, we didn’t do a cake cutting (or have cake, it was croquembouche), no bouquet or garter toss, etc.

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