Post # 1
I’ve decided, along with my fiance, that we will only do the rituals that really are special and apply to us.
Pre-ceremony: We’re sleeping in the suite together the night before, I personally think it will be magical. Plus we’re doing massages together.
He will see me before, we’re doing couples shots for a couple hours pre-ceremony.
The ceremony: No candle lighting, No mass for our Catholic ceremony, minimal readings, no bouquet toss
After the ceremony, we’re not doing formal shots at the church. Obviously if our parents are obsessed on having a picture at the church, we’ll do that, but that’s it. Only with our parents. Nobody else, our families are just too big. We’re having a portrait photog. at the reception just for taking formal shots.
Reception: We aren’t doing a garter toss, no money dance, if we decide to do cake cutting, which we might not, we’re not feeding each other. He doesn’t want the mother/son dance but I’m doing the father/daughter dance.
Post # 3
We defintely went non traditional!
We slept together the night before (i just sleep better with him, otherwise i lay awake and can’t sleep because I’m thinking about a million things (not necessarily anything to do with him). for whatever reason, his presense just calms me and i drift right off to sleep. the night before my wedding definitely wasn’t the night i needed to be up all night thinking about things like when to do the laundry when we get back, etc lol)
We took pre-ceremony pictures
We had a non denominational ceremony, though my entire family is Catholic and have always had Catholic weddings
Ours was outside
We had a chocolate ceremony instead of unity candle
We did cupcakes instead of a wedding cake, though we did cut a small cake together and did the cake feeding, as well as bouquet and garter toss
We didn’t have dancing
Post # 4
Well we are skipping the limos, much of the photography of wedding prep. the bridal bouquet toss, the garter toss, and the traditional reception and having a pig roast instead. But then again, as a middle-aged encore bride, I am about as non-traditional as a bride can get! LOL Oh yeah, and we are requesting NO GIFTS!
Post # 5
Chocolate Ceremony … like real chocolate? Yumm… tell me more.
Post # 6
Bluespurrs: I overheard my fiance on the phone telling a friend "Don’t bring a gift, if you bring a gift … blah blah blah." Whatever he said, lol. Anyway, I was like "DONT SAY THAT EVER AGAIN!" Hahaha.
I just really love gifts. Even if they’re small or inexpensive. Why are you requesting "no gifts" if you don’t mind, and if you do mind, I understand!!! I always am like, wow that’s so savvy of them … no gifts, it just seems really cool and grown up. Haha.
Post # 7
We are going very non-traditional, here’s ome of the reasons why:
- I’m wearing a blue dress
- We’re not having any flowers
- We’re having a beach ceremony with no religious element
- We’re not having a wedding party
- I don’t have an engagement ring
- We’re staying together the night before the wedding and seeing each other during the day
- I’m not being given away. We’re walking down the aisle together
- We’re having a ring girl
- My fiance is doing the bulk of the wedding planning
- I’m keeping my name
- We’re not having an official photographer
- We’re having a beach bbq reception
- Not doing any spotlight moments: no cake cutting, no first dance, no father/daughter or mother/son dance, no bouquet toss or garter toss. Only spotlight we are having is toasts.
Post # 8
1. Seeing each other before to do the photo shoot
2. Not doing a garter toss or bouquet toss
3. Not doing a father/daughter, mother/son dance
4. Not doing a unity candle or sand ceremony
Post # 9
1. staying together the night before (although i think this is pretty common)
2. seeing each other before ceremony for pics (ditto #1 comment)
3. no bouquet, no bouts
4. no dancing
5. no aisle to walk down
6. no bridal party
but i am totally wearing a bridal gown, we’re going to recite vows, we’re having cocktail hour and sit-down dinner, etc. so i’m still pretty traditional! i’m just lazy about planning.
Post # 10
Although I’m very traditional in some ways, I see no point in slavishly following Every. Single. One. I would like our wedding to reflect us and to point forward to the marriage we are going to have. I think every couple should do what works for them, and if you’re doing something, do it because you really want to.
No engagement photos. No limo. No decorating the church. Groom and I are walking into our Nuptial Mass together instead of the usual bridal procession. No unity candle. We’re getting married in the morning and are having a luncheon reception at a lovely heritage house surrounded by gorgeous gardens. We’re having some photos between, but there will not be a huge time gap for guests to deal with. No receiving line. Absolutely no cake smooshing. No garter/bouquet toss. No dance. We will probably do some more photos in the gardens at our site after the reception is over, but neither of us wants a big fashion shoot. Everything will be over by 4pm so we can leave for our honeymoon in good time. 🙂
Post # 11
We’re definitely going the non-traditional route. There will be no garter/bouquet toss, no tea ceremony (I’m chinese) and no church ceremony. We will also be seeing eachother before the ceremony to do a "reveal" moment. That’s about it for now..I’m looking forward to breaking a few more traditions closer to the actual wedding date 😀
Post # 12
The chocolate ceremony went along the lines of the Forest Gump line, about how you never know what you are going to get, sometimes the life is sweet, sometimes bittersweet, just like the chocolate, but no matter what, you will always be there for each other, then we fed a piece to each other, and, since i wanted to add our guests into the ceremony, we had them each take a piece as well. I can send you a copy of what our chocolate ceremony was exactly, if you message me, but you can really do it however you’d like!
Post # 13
We’re a mix of non-traditional and traditional. Fiance has a best woman. Our friend is our officiant. We wrote our whole non-denominational ceremony based on Tom Robbin’s "Stilllife with Woodpecker" book and the story of our relationship. There’s no mention of God anywhere–we are not religious but both have many religious family members.
Cocktail/Buffet style, lounge style seating. No DJ, doing the iTunes playlist, No father/daughter, mother/son dances, no garter/bouquet, no cutting the cake (doing cupcakes). Doing lavender plants instead of flowers. We’re definitely seeing each other before. No favors.
It’s funny because sometimes when I tell people about our wedding, I get the "Okayyyyyyy" or I get "I love that you’re doing something outside the box." Regardless of the reaction, at least people are looking forward to it.
Post # 14
everything is out the window for us now……..
stay together the night before and the day off
was going to do a dress, now its sarong & bikini for me and shorts & loud shirt for him
was going to do the hair, flowers bit – now its go scuba diving and a quick shower before hand
was going to do some music at least (found a lovely piano piece) but decided to use the locals (we’re getting married in the Solomans) and i suspect there will be a a wine bottle and spoons involved
was going to get married in the resort owners private garden but decided on the beach so all the local staff can join in (we’ve been at this dive resort a few times so we know alot of them by now)
was thinking of saying "obey" in the vows and then thought – yeah right
no photographer so plan on handing our cameras out to someone to take some pics for the folks
oh, not going to change my surname after we come back either
Post # 15
1. Dress is of my own imagination, custom made
2. No bouquet nor floral decor nor boutonnieres
3. No limos
4. No garter
5. No cake
6. No officiant — we’re marrying ourselves at the ceremony + courthouse
7. ‘I’m a Believer’ on piano as our ‘walking in’ song
8. Getting married in a French bistro
9. Only groomsmen, no bridemaids – but 1 self-declared "Personal Assistant" (LOL)
i have had many people raise an eyebrow or go "OMG are you sure?!", but we don’t really think our wedding’s very odd.
all the best and yaay to all unconventional brides!
Post # 16
haha! no "obey" in our vows either, and yes, no father-daughter dances, no first dance for that matter!
and yes, i’m keeping my name!