Are you a parent?

posted 1 year ago in Pets
Post # 61
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2016 - Surfer\'s Beach, Grand Cayman

sboom :  Nailed it. 

Post # 62
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230 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2019

I don’t have children but I’m an educator and I find my dog a lot easier to handle than children haha. He’s like a perfect kid that just loves cuddles and playing outside. He also has less accidents than most kids! 

Post # 63
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2016 - Surfer\'s Beach, Grand Cayman

j_jaye :  Nobody’s making it a competiton here that I can see. Being a pet owner isn’t being a parent, animals have parents. I personally don’t care at all if people consider themselves parents to their pets, but truthfully they aren’t and that’s not a bad thing, being a pet owner is awesome in and of itself. Saying that parenting is harder, is also just the truth for most people that have done both, it’s not a competiton, just reality. I’m not sure why people view struggle as something to be proud of anyway. 

Post # 64
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I have 2 cats that are a handful, but I wouldn’t consider myself a parent because it’s just not the same as raising a human life. Humans are complex creatures that require a deeper level of nuturing than animals. I LOVE animals, but my cat’s needs don’t go beyond play/hunt, eat, poop, groom, sleep. Humans have a delicate psyche that parents have a large influence over. I’m rather terrified to become a parent to a human because I’d be too afraid of messing something up!

Post # 65
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

I don’t consider myself a parent…at least not to a human.  haha I would never refer to myself as a parent in normal social circumstances, but at home, Darling Husband and I throw around the Mom & Dad names when working with our pups.  “You have to go potty?  Oh, go tell your dad, it’s his turn to take you out.”  lol

My mom is a total sweetheart about our dogs.  We can’t have kids and my mom knows our dogs fill a huge void in our lives.  On her photo wall where all the grandkids are, she puts pictures of our dogs up.  Melts my heart.  I was stressing big time about who to have watch our dogs when we go out of town in a few weekends and my mom offered to come over and watch her “grandpups.”  That woman is a saint. lol

I get everyone has different relationships with their dogs.  While I would never ever compare it to having a child, there is still a great amount of work/sleepless nights/heartache that goes into it.  Today, I’m EXHAUSTED because one of my dogs wanted to cuddle next to me all night (130 + lb great dane).  He bonded very closely with my Darling Husband when we first got him, so I’ll take every snuggle I can!  I have slept on the floor next to my older dog’s bed when she was sick all night.  The other night I cried myself to sleep because the reality of our older dog not being with us for a whole lot longer is seriously getting real.  And don’t even get me started about going on vacation and leaving them behind.  It’s never pretty.  Yes, I realize nothing compares to what my sister’s go through with their children, but when your dogs are your world, they’re not “just pets.”  They are so much more than that!

Post # 66
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Buzzing bee

I’ve rethunk (probably not a word) my original stance—my impeccable parenting skills (or lack thereof) to my dog won’t determine whether or not he becomes the next Ted Bundy, Donald Trump, or Jeffrey Dahmer. 

 

I have a pet, and I love him to death, but I am not a parent. And that’s okay because I do NOT want a human child right now because student loans. Also, I don’t have to worry about saving for him to go to college. 

Post # 69
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 1997

I agree that “parent” and “pet owner” are job titles/descriptions, not awards. No one is better or worse than anyone else if they are a parent or a pet owner. I am not a pet owner, and I cannot imagine any reason why I would insist that I was a pet owner if I wasn’t because that doesn’t define me, nor does it make me a lesser person than someone who is a pet owner. I am a parent and THAT doesn’t define me, either. I’m not a better person because I have children, and no one is any worse because they don’t have children. It is what it is. The animosity over people not bestowing the title of parent to a pet owner is beyond me. All people are saying is that they are two different things.

Post # 70
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2021

mrsautumn36 :  puppies are a fuck tonne of work but that phase only lasts a couple months before things get way easier .

Post # 71
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Busy bee

I think some of it might be how you raise kids. My kids are very independent and self sufficient. I was always a single mom so they have learned to do for themselves at a young age. At 7 my daughter could fix a bottle and feed her brother, change diapers etc.

The animals don’t feed themselves, pack their own lunches, bath themselves, go outside alone or clean their own bathrooms. 

The kids take care of that all themselves where the animals are way more needy. So in my world the animals are way more challenging. And considering my dog is very much in public, I did have to work especially hard with him so he would have super wonderful manners and could behave himself wherever.

as I am relaxing this evening, I have not seen the kids in a few hours, but every cat and the dog have come to me for something.

Post # 73
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Blushing bee

Getting a dog is similar to becoming a parent but not to the same degree obviously. You have to start planning more when you have a dog, get up earlier to let it out, make arrangements for someone to take care of it when you’re away etc etc and basically thinking about something else aside from yourself. BUT if and when you decide to have children is a whole new ball game. Having a child is a whole new level of responsibility that you can’t even begin to understand until you have one. So yes you’re a “dog Mum” and that’s wonderful and exciting but I wouldn’t say having a pet makes you a “parent”. 

Post # 74
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I may have said yes until I had a baby.  Honestly it is SO much work (MUCH more than having a pet) that I feel that it is unfair to real parents to use the term “parent” for those that just have pets.  Yes, we love our pets, and having a pet is a responsibility… but it is just not anywhere on the same scale as what it entails to raise an actual human 

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