(Closed) Are you allowing guests to bring their kids?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Are you allowing guests to bring their kids?

    Definitely not... No kids AT all!

    Of course!

    There will be a few, but ONLY because they are IN the wedding.

  • Post # 17
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    Yes absolutely!! I am getting married in the Catholic church and banning children from a celebration of a sacrament, marriage specifically, would be about the most outright un-Catholic thing you could do. 

     

    Post # 18
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I voted “of course”, as “There will be a few, but ONLY because they are IN the wedding” doesn’t exactly apply. There will be a few kids there, but they’re not in the wedding. All of the children are under 5, and there were some guests invited who have children who are older who were not invited.

     

    Post # 19
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2014 - Dallas, TX

    We’re having no kids under 14 except for kids in the bridal party and their siblings. We’ll have a total of 5 kids, my cousin’s two kids and my FI’s neice and two nephews. Luckily all the other kids belong to people like coworkers, and we don’t even really know their kids and wouldn’t want to invite them anyway.

    Post # 20
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    @TrinityLeeAnn:  We used inner and outer envelopes in order to be very specific about exactly who is invited (because it’s rude to point out who is NOT invited by saying ‘Adults Only’ etc)

    There were a few teenaged children invited with their out of town parents, and two teenaged boys IN the wedding.  The only small children there were my 5 year old flower girl, and my 4 month old niece who was still breastfeeding (and I didn’t even know she was there until over halfway through the reception).

    If people have questions about their children being invited, they should call and ask, or call Future Mother-In-Law if it’s her family.  Be specific, clear, firm, but polite and explain that the wedding will not be a child-friendly environment and that, unfortunately, you can not accommodate their small children.

    Post # 21
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    I feel like you need an option that says, “we’re letting guests being kids because we didn’t invite that many people with children.” We’re having a small wedding, and only two couples we know have kids (two 1.5 year olds and a newbord baby), so it’s not a big deal for them to come. However, if most of our friends had kids, we’d definitely have to draw the line somewhere, b/c we wouldn’t want the place to be overun with ankle biters!

    Post # 22
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

    Yes, most definitely.  We mostly had really young kids (3 and under) but a handful of older ones.  A wedding wouldn’t be the same without all our loved ones’ kiddos running around, but everybody’s different…

    Post # 24
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    double post

    Post # 25
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @TrinityLeeAnn:  Then why not allow them to the ceremony?

     

    PS– if you didnt want people saying they are having kids and saying why..maybe the name of the thread shouldn’t be “are you allowing guests to bring kids”. Didn’t catch that you weren’t doing a survey.

    Post # 27
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    Buzzing bee

    I voted “of course” but that really didn’t fur my situation. The only kids at my wedding were my 8 and 3 year old nieces and DH’s then seven month old cousin. We only had 43 guest who were mostly family. I don’t think kids have to be invited everywhere. 

    Oh but my dog also came to my wedding…

    Post # 28
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @TrinityLeeAnn:  who said children were mandatory? they don’t have to bring them to the mass. 

    Post # 30
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @TrinityLeeAnn:  I didnt know it was supposed to be a vote but don’t say why type of thing– sorry! To me the action would be un-Catholic, never said someone is/was un-Catholic! It’s my opinion, and I get to say that on the internets 🙂

     

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