Post # 92
We are only having 4 kids in the wedding FI’s 2 nephews as ring bearer and my 2 oldest nieces as flower girls. My sister has 6 kids (youngest will be 2 and 3, and then twin boys that will be 8) and her and I talked about what to do, we decided to only have my nieces (who will be 10) in the wedding. This way my sister and Brother-In-Law can enjoy themselves and kind of have a break from the kids. My nephews will stay with their dad and the youngest two will stay with their grandparents. I’ve been to plenty of weddings where the only kids were flower girls/ring bearers…and it worked out fine. If my sister is ok with just my nieces being there…then so am I. And anyways else who isn’t ok with it doesn’t have to go (not to be a b***h, but there’s no way to make everyone happy, so i’d rather do what works best for us)
Post # 93
- Wedding: October 2013 - Vine Street Church
@daniellemc: The wedding was two weeks ago, so what you’ve said is moot at this point.
But children are not an all-or-nothing thing etiquette-wise. Children are permitted to be invited in circles just like the rest of the family. The first set of children are the children of my husband’s aunt. The other set of children are the children of his cousin. Additionally, the first set of children are teenagers and the second set are elementary schoolers. The first set of children, I had met before; the second set, I had never met before.
There are a lot of factors at play here. Nowhere did we state ‘adults only’ because THAT is against etiquette, but we did write who was invited on the envelopes to the families. The family in question went against etiquette and added people who were not invited to their invitation, and considering we didn’t intend for any children at all, that was very impolite of them.
Post # 94
@KatB442: Yeah…Fiance and I love kids, and we really want to have a “family” wedding. But we also remeber how boring adult events were when we were kids, and the melt downs at our last family reunion started around 9pm. I think having a separate space and a sitter would really be best for everyone (including our youngest guests!) if it’s in budget.
Post # 95
@TrinityLeeAnn: “adults only reception” would work. No kids for us
Post # 96
My own children will be there, as they are junior bridesmaids. Other than that, the only children invited are babies. If we allowed all the children to come, it would mean we couldn’t have half of our friends and family there because there are so many of them. We are allowing babies and there will be three of them.
Post # 97
- Wedding: October 2014 - Church
No children for us at the wedding. Love my nieces but nope. I’ve seen what happens when they are over-tired and it’s not pretty. I just don’t want to worry about other peple parenting and keeping their kids under control. My sister understands – she, in fact, thinks that weddings are no place for kids. This is great since they are the only children closest to us and if my neices are not coming, then I don’t have to invite other children.
Post # 98
We have a guest list of 185 although I love the kids in my family we are not allowing kids because our venue only allows 180 including children so we are thinking about having immediate family (my brothers are under 15) and my son (ring bearer) and my Flower Girl there but I think that is all. Our invitations will say 15 and over.