(Closed) Are you an etiquette natzi?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
3364 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

No but my mom sure is! UGH! She seems to be using everyone she can think of!

Ex. 1 “If you’ve been invited to a wedding you must invite them to your or your children’s wedding.”  – Even if I as the kid now getting married didnt get to attend THEIR wedding.

Ex. 2 “A wedding is no place for a child.” – Well what do you suggest we do with the million of COUSINS we have and the millions of little ones they have! And out of towners? Ugh!

And of COURSE she brings her suggestions to my attention 5 months BEFORE our wedding and 2 months before our first big PAYMENT is due. ::GaG::

Post # 4
119 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Why? And how do you characterize “nazi”? I mean – I would certainly say I care about etiquette, but mostly because many of those rules were developed to a) make people more comfortable, b) be considerate of others, and c) make things more uniform. All of these are great things, I think, especially when you’re throwing an event for a large number of people. However, I wouldn’t choose to blindly follow a rule when it would make a guest UNcomfortable (for example, traditionally, couples are broken up in seating a formal dinner party, but that would make many of my guests unhappy, so we won’t be doing that). Is there a certain situation you’re interested in?

Post # 5
569 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

No, but I’m a spelling nazi. 😉 

I think I’m becoming more and more conscious of wedding etiquette as plannning progresses. Fiance and I got a wedding invitation a few weeks ago, and as I pulled the main invite out of the envelope, a Bed Bath and Beyond registry card fluttered out. I was like, “Oh no, it’s a Weddingbee sin!!” I had to explain to Fiance how a lot of people felt about including registry info in formal invitations. I wasn’t offended by it at all, and I certainly didn’t think any less of the couple who sent the invitation, but I definitely won’t be doing the same thing.

Post # 5
3142 posts
Sugar bee

Noooooooooooo not at all. I’m worried I’m too lackadaisical about the whole thing actually.


Post # 7
1684 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’m a “Nazi” about invitation etiquette. The rest? Not so much.

Post # 8
4150 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Not at all.  I hate ettiquette.

Post # 9
10367 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I don’t understand why people listen to a book written by a dead person with made up rules to determine how to structure their weddings.

So, that would be a “no”.

Post # 11
1458 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

Hmm, maybe double check the #1 and #2 definitions of Natzi…


I wouldn’t trust a dictionary with the word “urban” in front 😉


As for ettiquite, I pick and choose what I want to follow.  Most of it is good faith, but a lot of it is archaic.

Post # 12
814 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

@crayfish: Totally agree. It’s a day for me and my Fiance and we’ll do it how we damn well please :p We’re not old fashioned at all, and want our wedding to be fun for everybody (guests and WP) which means ditching a few little ‘etiquette’ rules, but the day will be better for it.

Post # 13
7296 posts
Busy Beekeeper

i was not a nazi, but i did care what people thought, so i did my best to follow the rules as i learned them. but when i started planning my wedding, i knew so little that i didn’;t know to look up said rules. so a lot of what i did was based off weddings i have attended. for example, i put registry cards in my invites because all weddings (almost) I have been invited to in the past have done this, so i thought i was SUPPOSED to!  i discovered the bee and other sites that said otherwise about a week too late for that one, oops!

Post # 14
2263 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Yes. But only mostly because I am trying to have a small wedding and don’t want to offend people not invited! :3 I am trying to phrase everything in such a way that no one can go back and nit-pick anything, esp FH’s family who have already made things difficult. 

Post # 15
1263 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

As a matter of fact, Fiance just called me a Nazi a couple nights ago. It was because we sent a formal invitation to a friend of his, his friend’s wife and their 16 year old daughter. They sent back their RSVP saying 4 adults would be coming. Turns out they invited their daughters boyfriend and it bugged the hell out of me! I think it’s totally rude but Fiance said I just need to let it go. I would never say anything and I really do like her boyfriend. We’ve met him multiple times and he is great with our two year old son. It has nothing to do with who he is, just the fact that FI’s friends invited him without even asking. But, oh well what can ya do?

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