(Closed) Are you and your FI on the same page about babies?

posted 4 years ago in Babies
  • poll: Are you and your FI on the same page about babies?
    YES- we want the same number of kids, in the same time frame : (171 votes)
    49 %
    Kinda- we want the same number of kids, but I want kids sooner than he does : (60 votes)
    17 %
    Kinda- we want the same number of kids, but HE would like kids sooner than I do : (40 votes)
    11 %
    No- we want different a number of kids, or one of us wants kids way sooner than the other : (35 votes)
    10 %
    Haven't talked about it : (2 votes)
    1 %
    Yes, we both don't want kids! : (43 votes)
    12 %
  • Post # 3
    2565 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    We both want kids, but we’re differing on how many!  We’re aiming to try (haha) in the next year or so…

    Post # 4
    2351 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Yes. We both never want any.

    Post # 5
    1120 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2010

    I wanted to adopt, he wanted to have his own. I agreed to have them with him, I don’t think any other man could have convinced me to carry and deliver children.

    We were both on the same page wanting two children as well as for our timeline for having them.

    Post # 6
    613 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2014 - Historic cinema

    Yup. None.

    Post # 7
    3778 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    My husband and I are both in agreement that we’re not kid people. It works out perfectly!

    Post # 8
    2066 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    i always said three, he always said two… lately i’m thinking two is enough because we have zero kids and i’m already tired. haha. i used to watch to start immediately after the wedding but now that that’s here… i’m okay with waiting a while 🙂

    Post # 9
    123 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2017

    We both have a son each from previous relationships.  I think he would be happy with none.  I was upfront from the beginning of becoming serious that I def want more.  We have pretty much compromised with another one but not for another 3-4 years.  I couldn’t not be on the same page about important issues like that, it would hang over me.

    Post # 10
    932 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    We both want 2, and we would like to conceive #2 when #1 is a year or so old. So we are on the same page that way. I would like to start in 2 years or so, Darling Husband wants to start in 2 months since he is older. We will probably start trying this spring.

    Post # 12
    509 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I wasn’t really sure how to vote… we didn’t start out on the same page regarding kids. I wasn’t 100% sure I wanted kids, and if I did, I only wanted 1. My Fiance is totally sure he wants kids, and wants to have two. I’ve come around on having kids, so we’re on the same page there, but there’s still a part of me that thinks life would be a lot easier if we stopped after 1… but I figure that’s not something we need to decide right away. After we pop one out, we’ll probably know if we want another or not! I think we’re both open to discussing changing our opinions.

    I also really want a daughter… so if our first kid is a son, it’ll probably be a lot easier to convince me to keep going 🙂

    Post # 14
    2376 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

     No kids here thank you!  He was there when I got my tubes tied, so I know he’s on board too.

    Post # 15
    278 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    @butterfliesandhoney:  We both want some but we differ on how many. I would love to have 6 and he doesn’t want anymore than 2-3. I come from a big Italian family and I love it while he comes from a very small one. Though our biggest disagreement is on the names lol.

    Post # 16
    1475 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    We both want to wait awhile – when I am 30 I think we will start. We disagree with the number of kids, though – I want 3 and he wants 2. He also wants all boys and I want at least one of each, but there is no way either of us can control that!

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