Post # 47
SO and I are always together, and we’ve pretty much been inseparable since we started dating almost 5 and 1/2 years ago. We are both loners as you described, and prefer each other’s company over anyone else’s. Pretty much all I want to do when I get home from work is just settle in and hang out with him, and he’s the same way. I will go out maybe once a month and get lunch with a friend that I’ve known for almost 15 years, but that is about the extent of me hanging out with other people.
Post # 48
I mean, we live together so obviously we spend a lot of time together. However, we both firmly believe it is healthy to do our own things too. For us, just because we got married doesn’t mean we are automatically a packaged deal and can’t leave each others side…we are each still our own person. Our rule is, as long as we don’t already have plans together, we can make other plans if we want. Of course, we have to let each other know what we’re doing. I don’t have a problem with him making plans his buddies, and he doesn’t care if I make plans with my girlfriends.
Post # 49
@Bunny_the_Bride: yes, we are like this too. We are both mid-40s and while dating we were quite the social scene couple, together, and independently with our friends. But since having married a year ago, we have settled into being homebodies, or stepping out just the two of us.
Part of it is, we have 4 kids at home. So, when we want a “social break” it’s so nice to just be US and not have to engage too much with folks around us. And when we are at home we do almost everything together. I suppose we’re pretty sappy and a little much for others to understand, but we do both truly enjoy being “attached at the hip.”
Post # 50
Very similar. Only time we are apart is when we are at work. I go out with friends or my parents from time to time as does he. But mainly we hang with each other. I love this because hes the one person in my life i can truly be myself around. 🙂
Post # 51
@Steampunkbride: +100 We spend lots of free time together, but not all of it. I see my girl friends once a week and I’m really close to my mum and sister so I spend lots of time with them without Fiance (sometimes I even sleep at my sisters so I can spend more quality time with my niece). Fiance works 4 days a week and does personal training some evenings. He also goes football training twice a week. I like my own company so while I do miss Fiance when I’m home and he’s not, I love chilling out on the Bee or reading a book at home.
Post # 52
For the most part we are however, we both need our space and have our alone me time. We have in the mix a toddler. So we never are truely alone
Post # 53
we both work from home so i’d say we’re together more than the average couple
Post # 54
We normally are.
I’m a complete loner & for the most part an introvert (although I am not shy at all, I just prefer to keep to myself & keep my friends list very small & intimate).
My husband is not at all an introvert, but he works & does his internship about 50 hours a week, plus goes to school fulltime (17 credit a semester). I work 40 hours a week & go to school fulltime as well.
We don’t have a lot of time for other people, and I miss him a lot. But lately I am starting to think that our marriage & marriages in general are stronger if people have other friends and spend a little time apart doing other leisurely activites. It gives you time to miss your partner, and cultivate your own interests.
Post # 55
@Bunny_the_Bride: my Fiance and i are very much like you and your DH! my Fiance still likes going out with friends, but always wants me there too so we are pretty much always together. only exceptions are when i work out (he refuses to go lol) or a very rare girls night (trying to cultivate friendships as an adult is so hard, this happens maybe once every few months). my Fiance and i get home, put on our “comfy clothes” and veg out together pretty much every night and i love it. 🙂
Post # 56
@Bunny_the_Bride: I don’t do clubs or anything like that. Though, my husband works for the Sheriff’s office and has weird hours (he works 3 – 11pm every other week) so I’ll go to trivia/grab dinner with friends (and our 5 month old daughter) during those weeks. I get lonely! Outside of that, we spend most of our freetime together since we don’t get enough due to his work schedule.
Post # 57
@Bunny_the_Bride: Fiance and I spend a good amount of time together. We aren’t joined at the hip 100% of the time. He goes out and does tacos/games/beer with his friends. I go to yoga with my friends, shop, work out, etc. We don’t actually sleep in the same bed because our sleep styles are incompatible in terms of light, temperature, noise, etc. We always make time for each other though, especially on evenings and weekends where we will work together around the house, marathon through things on netflix, cook together, etc.
Post # 59
We spend alot of time together, but i always make time for my girls. I will often go for dinner with them or plan a weekend away. DH has alone guy time whenever he can, but often i’m there since i get along well with his friends.
Honestly i wouldn’t be worried if we spent more time apart. He’s becoming a bit of a hermit these days.
Post # 60
Oh no! We have our together time, which we both love, and our friends time, which we also enjoy. I’m not talking about going clubbing or bar hopping without each other or anything. But he has NO interest in hanging out with my girlfriends when we lunch and shop (thank goodness), and I have no wish to watch him play video games with the guys!
Post # 61
- Wedding: November 2009 - New York, NY
DH and I spend most of our time together.