(Closed) Are you and your husband always together?

posted 8 years ago in Married Life
  • poll: Are you and your husband always together?

    Yes

    No

  • Post # 77
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    Nope! We spend about 3-4 days per week in different cities, do definitely not! 🙂

    Even when we were full-time in the same place, we often did things separately. Usually it was DH going out without me, because sometimes I’d rather just sit at home and watch a movie, and he’d rather bro out at a bar with some dudes, lol. I have also flown home to see my family (in Florida) several times without DH.

    Post # 78
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I’m just like you, I prefer to spend as much time as possible alonewith DH. Hehowever, likes to hang ut with friends as much as possible. Its definitely caused some arguments.

    Post # 79
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    No. Not at all. We’ve spent more time apart during our marriage than together. We don’t mind it.

    Post # 80
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    940 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Rosehill Community Center

    He’s the only person whose company I don’t get tired of!  I have a limit to how much socializing I can handle, and once I hit that I kind of shut down.  But thankfully I can spend all the time in the world with him without getting sick of him.  

    He occasionally goes out to get a drink with his friend, and I occasionally hang out with my friends without him, but we both get lonely if the other is gone for too long.  We used to even eat lunch together every day, but my office moved so that doesn’t work anymore.  But we definitely spend a lot of time together!  

    Post # 81
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @Bunny_the_Bride:  Yes. I do. When my Fiance and I met he knew I was a social dancer (Tango Salsa), that it was a huge part of my life and I wouldn’t give it up. I even spent some time teaching it. That being said, I have spent waaaaay less time dancing since we’ve met and love being home wit him to watch a movie and eat popcorn or play Scrabble! What was important to me is that he support me 100%. Sometimes that’s all you need to know and it makes the idea of being out much less appealing at times I think.

    Post # 82
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    No. I could not be with him ALL the time. I need my alone time or time with girlfriends and he likes the same. 

    Post # 83
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @Bunny_the_Bride:  Ooops. Was trying to reply directy to your question about whether you’d go out to clubs etc…

    Post # 84
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    My husband and I are very much connected and have remained close over the past 7 years. With that being said we are VERY independent and don’t need/like being attached for every activity we partake in. We have different hobbies, likes, interests, and friends. I spend time with my family without him, he likes to shop for vintage records without me, etc. We don’t need to be together all of the time and I am fine with it. In spite of that we are very much in tune with each other. 

    Post # 85
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    @Bunny_the_Bride:  We work together about half the week, and we hang out together a lot! I always jump at the chance to hang out with him during the day. We also have our own friends, though, and like to do girls’ nights or guys’ nights. Sometimes we spend a day off apart, each doing our own thing. Both are super important to me: spending lots of time together AND having my own life. 

    Post # 86
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2012

    I think we split our time pretty well. I do like my alone time, and DH likes to sleep (he works nights). So while we may be home a lot at the same time we do have our “alone time”, but when we are both awake we are pretty much together unless one of us is working. But since DH works nights if I’m not working, he basically is around until I go to bed. DH owns a bar though, so sometimes I will go out while he’s working or go hang out with him while he’s working the floor… So I guess we do spend most of our time together, or at least in the same vicinity. lol

    Post # 87
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    @Bunny_the_Bride:  Gosh no. If we were together all the time we’d kill each other. 😉 My DH travels a lot for work, so I’m very independant. In fact, he travels so much that he’s gone more than he’s home. When he is home it’s a huge adjustment and even then we still don’t spend all our time together. I cherish the time I spend with my girlfriends. 

    Post # 88
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @arsing89:  This: “We both realize that we need to have relationships outside of each other in order to be normal adults.”

    I hate that one of my good friends got married and now her husband has to do EVERYTHING with us.  Like, she had to leave my bachelorette party early because he was home from work.  Are you KIDDING me?  All of a sudden your friends are less important than some guy?  And now we’re going to the Veronica Mars movie and he’s coming.  WHY?  I know he doesn’t like the show.  UGH.  

    My husband and I love each other, but we have our own lives and personalities apart from each other.  God, grocery shopping together?  That sounds stifling.  


    I guess it boils down to your level of independence, though.

    Post # 89
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Outside of work, yes we are always together and I wouldn’t have it any other way. He’s my best friend, and everything is so much better with him next to me. 🙂

    Post # 90
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2011 - Boy #1 12/2015, boy #2 02/2018

    @Bunny_the_Bride: When we are not at school or work, we are for the most part together. Sometimes, I go to the store by myself or housemate because he works evenings, and that’s when I have time to go to the store. I don’t go shopping that much, and I usually go with him. We go out to eat together and such. We don’t have friends we go out with here in Texas, so we are kind of loners.  

    Post # 91
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013 - A court...

    I don’t like how dh is more social yet doesn’t like going out without me. I insist that he hang out with his friends but nope… Makes me feel guilty since I’m an introvert & prefer being at home.

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