(Closed) Are you and your husband always together?

posted 8 years ago in Married Life
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  • Post # 92
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2011 - Boy #1 12/2015, boy #2 02/2018

    I think part of the reason we stay together in our free times is because he works evenings and nights, and I go to school from morning to evening, so I don’t get to see him much except two evenings a week. He works weekends as well. I hate his schedule 🙁 Sometimes I feel the need to stay up until late to greet him after midnight. Then he likes to stay in bed later than I do. Just not the ideal case for TTC.

    Post # 93
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    Pretty sure I’d kill him if we spent 24/7 together.

    Post # 94
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @Janelle123:  we do plenty of that, too. Netflix will be the death of us.

    Post # 95
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    @Bunny_the_Bride


    no we are not together most the time. he leaves a lot for work but when he is here and we get into a routine. I will once in a while get invited to girls night out or drinks at a friends. or a dinner he doesnt want to go to. He has a bit of single friends so once in a while he will go out, but rarly compared to me. When we leave and get back together its really special. we have more things to talk about and our sex life is out of the park cuz he misses me. but like i said hes out of town a lot. some times we do stay inside for days just hanging out on the couch, ordering take out.

    Post # 96
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    Busy bee

    @adoc86:  +1. We are together the majority of the time but there are certain instances where I am interested in something, such as my book club, and he isn’t. My partner wouldn’t want to hold me back from enjoying a hobby just because he’s not into it and I feel the same way. 

    Post # 97
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    There are times when I see my friends without him but most of the time (with the exception of work) we’re together.

    Post # 98
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    Yes we do.

    Post # 99
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2016

    @Bunny_the_Bride:  I am not married yet, but my fiance’ and I spend every minute together we can. Unless he is at work, or we have something going on (doctors appt, grocery store, etc). We have not been away from each other more than 48 hours since the start of our relationship…almost 2 years ago lol. You would think we would be SICK of each other …but we aren’t. I don’t force him to be around me and he doesn’t force me to be around him, we just enjoy each other’s company. I dislike most people in the world these days (obviously there are SOME good people) but most people are rude, crazy, bad influences, etc. and I have no desire to be around them.

    Post # 100
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    Sugar bee

    @Bunny_the_Bride:  We spend a lot of time together and we have been together for a long time (10 1/2 years), but we definitely have friends/hobbies of our own. In our opinion, that is what makes life and our relationship more interesting. When we come back together, we have more to talk about.

    I have hobbies he is not interested in (browsing the Weddingbee, arts & crafts, exercise classes, occassionally hanging out with my girl friends) and he has hobbies I am not interested in (baseball, video games on occasion and poker nights with his friends). I would never want to take away his opportunities to explore those interests, and he wouldn’t want to take away my opportunities either. 

    We probably spend about 75% of our time together outside of work (though we actually work at the same organization–different departments) and 25% of our time with friends/pursuing hobbies. It works out really well for us that way and we wouldn’t change it for anything.

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    @peachacid:  +1 I have a friend who feels the need to scurry home the second her DH gets off work, no matter what we are doing. He even tells her to stay and enjoy herself, but she says it’s her “wifely” duty to be with him when he gets off work. Seriously?!?!? I love my DH, but by golly I am far to independent to ever be like that.

    Post # 101
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    When I am not at work, I spend 90% of my time with my husband. I have a much more active social life than my husband does; he is an introvert. I balance my social life with my marriage because I think it is important for me to have my own interests.

     

    I don’t want to completely lose my independence and friendships just because I am married. That would feel too smothering and codependent for me. 

     

    I can’t imagine having my husband accompany me EVERYWHERE except work. We still enjoy a little space from each other now and then. Sometimes we also like to occupy different rooms of the house; that is a great way to be together but apart. When my husband is watching a tv show, I may wander into the living room and cuddle with him while he lies on the couch. 

     

    I went to my best friend’s house last Friday. My husband was a little pouty because Friday and Saturday are my only days off. He wanted to spend Friday evening with me. So when my bestie asked me to go out this Friday, I politely declined. I will be hanging out with my younger brother tomorrow and on Sunday, my husband and I will be going to a party and then my parents’ house. 

     

    My husband just turned 40 and I will be 32 in the spring. He is my anchor, my safe haven whom I can always count on. His quiet and calm demeanor balances out my emotional intensity. 

     

    Post # 102
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2018

    Unless one of us is at work (and occasionally, with a friend), then my FH and I are basically joined at the hip. I like it that way. I’m hugely introverted and he’s the only person I can be around for days and not feel emotionally drained.

    Post # 103
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    We love spending time together! But then again, my SO works a lot (over 70 hours/week on average) so we really enjoy our time together, and we love hanging out with our friends together. However, because he works so much and is typically not home in the evenings, sometimes I will go out with my girlfriends and have a girls’ night. Also when my SO has time, he will occasionally hang out with the boys. So we each try to get our individual social time.

    Post # 104
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2008 - Toronto, ON

    We used to be together a lot more but my DH just started working at this new job where he works 10 hour shifts, so by the time he gets home from work he is tired and only stays up for around 2 to 3 hours if I am lucky! 

    Post # 105
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    Bee Keeper

    I think time apart developing seperate interests are needed and necessary in adult relationships. I personally could not thrive in a relationship where we are up under each other all the time. zero appeal. The very thought of that makes me shudder. I have a friend whose husband prefers to be with her a.l.l. the time and she hates it. But if works for other couples fine. 

     

     

     

    Post # 106
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I have a girls night once a week and my husband usually goes out with the guys for wings once a week. We hang out with either his friends or my friends together on the weekends. I love spending time with him but I also like my girl time 🙂

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